Thursday, January 4, 2018

December 2017 Recap - What's New With You Link Up

Good morning everyone! Time for another link up with Gretch & me, all we ask is that you link back somewhere in your post. Thanks a bunch. I'll be doing another monthly recap because that's how I roll.

What's New With You

December was a fairly quiet month for us, but also kind of busy because even an anti-social no friends grinch like myself gets busy around the holidays. Of course, we were also busy with sad things - KC's grandpa passed away and the services were 2 hours away from where we live, family was in town, etc etc.

We had a few christmas get togethers and for new years we went to a friend's place for some games and food. It was a good time, though the headache all day Monday was less than fun. There was moonshine and peer pressure involved. Kidding.


As I've mentioned, I am a new years resolution kind of person, though I'm not making any this year. I just love clean slates, looking back and seeing how far I've come (or not), making goals - even if I don't accomplish them. So the end of 2017 made me look back on the year, it had some highs and lows, as every year does. My highs were going home and to NZ (one day I will post about that) and of course buying a house (and doing the kitchen reno). My lows were my mum having a stroke (a year ago yesterday), KC's grandpa getting sick and dying, and not achieving something I was hoping would be easy. I am the kind of person that focuses on things when they don't go my way and that is obviously not a healthy way to deal with things, but I am working on it.

I normally do a year end recap though I am not sure I will, as that kind of sums up the year and that's all there is to it.

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2017 was also the year I cut back on blogging and social media, not intentionally, but when my mum had her stroke I just felt like I had nothing to talk about. I would sit in front of the computer and just... nothing. I could talk about the books I read or the things I did on the weekends, but other than that, I had nothing. Part of it was that if I did think of something, it just seemed so stupid and trivial when my mum was sitting in hospital on the other side of the world. My brain was focused on that, and when it wasn't, I focused on books or TV and I was already talking about those. I had no extra mental energy to spend.

I agree with everyone that says don't apologise and just blog when you want to blog, especially because this is just a hobby for me, so I didn't really mind and I don't feel guilty or anything. But my mum is better - still not 100% and likely never will be - and life has moved on. I am in a better place mentally and this has always been something I enjoyed - not to mention something that helps with my sanity/happiness - so I am trying to get back into it. So. That's whats new with me.

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So - what's new with you?

36 comments:

  1. I definitely understand how hard it would be to focus on writing and blogging when you're just worried for your family. That's so hard. Glad you got to visit home and New Zealand this year--I'd definitely like to make it to New Zealand one day, it's just a bit difficult since it's so far from everywhere!

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  2. Well, as you might be able to see from the title of my post, I'm not recapping 2017 either! My reasons are different to yours but I think yours are totally valid. Again I'm sorry about your lows, those are some rough milestones. But I hope for lots more highs next year and achieving the thing you thought would be easy.

    I fade in and out on the blogging and social media. Sometimes it helps, sometimes it seems totally unimportant. But I agree, seeing as it's just a hobby, we have the luxury of being able to do that and for that I'm very glad!

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  3. I think it's normal to sometimes have nothing to say when blogging, because that also happens in real life. Forcing yourself to blog about something just for the sake of blogging is so artificial. I get that a lot of folks make a living blogging or supplement their incomes this way and therefore they need to keep posting. But, if you're just doing it for a hobby, that's a different story.

    May 2018 bring you happiness and joy and continued growth.

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  4. I agree this is definitely a mini recap, and a good way to share those highs and lows. I think not blogging when you have nothing to say is healthy, I'm definitely an escape into books and movies girl myself. Wishing you a fabulous 2018!

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  5. What a year full of ups and downs. I'm sorry to hear about KC's grandpa and about your mom but happy she's doing better. I hope that 2018 is a better year for you <3

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  6. I am so glad to hear your mom is doing better! I hope things turn around for you this year... I am too the focus on what’s wrong type of person and I can let it eat away at me.

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  7. I was mentally not fully present last year for other reasons but I get it completely. At some point there just is no extra mental energy to spend. The reason we can still read and talk about books or television is because while we have to engage and think, it's in someone else's world and the burden is off of us.

    I'm glad your Mum is better and you're feeling more yourself. I wanted to ask you several times but I didn't want to be the pokey person.

    Happy New Year!

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  8. When something is going on with your family/yourself, it's hard to know what to say, and I agree that everything else seems trivial! I'm glad to hear she's doing better, but I'm sorry to hear about KC's grandfather. Luckily those of us who blog as a hobby don't have to be present all the time. We ALL need a break! Hope 2018 is a wonderful year for you - let's plan on meeting up soon (once the weather isn't -5 degrees)~!

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  9. I'm sorry about KC's grandpa, but that's great that your mom is doing better. I imagine that was really tough. And you should totally blog when you want/feel like it! I do hope that blogging brings you more joy this year though. :)

    -Lauren
    www.shootingstarsmag.net

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  10. I'm sorry about KC's grandpa. I'm glad that your mom is doing better though! I can only imagine how hard going through that would be. I totally get blogging breaks & having nothing to say. I honestly kind of feel like that's happening a lot with blogs lately. Except for the people that are making money, more & more people are taking breaks. Which is a-okay! I've been there myself! I hope 2018 is off to a great start for you!

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  11. I'm glad your mum is much better. Hopefully the ups of 2017 outweigh the downs and that 2018 is filled with more ups. :)

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  12. I agree with the others that this definitely felt like a mini 2017 recap. And I fully understand your reasons for not wanting to blog as much this year. When life smacks you in the face with difficult situations...everything else seems too trivial to be worth your effort. :/ I am glad you're starting to feel up to approaching this space again and I hope 2018 will be filled with many more happy experiences!

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  13. Give yourself some grace! You went through some pretty tough stuff in 2017, so I could understand why the last thing you want to do is sit in front of a screen and write. My hope for you is that 2018 gets you on a better foot and brings you nothing but happiness and what you want soon enough. xx

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  14. i cut back on social media as well; so much so that my MIL thought i was "mad" at her because she said that she never saw anything else on FB and thought that I unfriended her LOL.

    glad your mom is getting much better.

    hope 2018 is amazing for you guys!

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  15. I am sory to hear about KC's grandpa, that is always so hard. Especially when it is close to the holidays. I am glad that your mum is doing better though and that you feel you are mentally in a better place. I agree that when you have stuff like that going on, it is hard to come here and be like hey look at this shirt that I want or confess something silly or whatever. Cheers to 2018, may it be the best year yet!!!!

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  16. Sorry to hear about KC's grandfather, but I'm glad your mom is doing so much better. I've cut back significantly on blogging, and it's so refreshing. I can't believe I used to pressure myself to come up with content 4-5 days a week which meant I also had to be commenting and responding to emails 4-5 days a week. You do you girl! Happy New Year sweet friend <3
    Green Fashionista

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  17. I totally get the cut back on blogging/social media last year. I missed you because I enjoy your posts but I'm the same way. Sometimes it just seems trivial with other things going on in your life, like your Mom's stroke, and I believe in being authentic. So if you're not feeling it, then don't do it. I'd rather be inconsistent with blogging and be genuine then blog regularly without sincerity. Sorry again about KC's Grandfather and I'm glad your Mom is doing much better. Happy New Year and here's to a happy and fulfilling 2018! With plenty of cat snuggles and good books!

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  18. When things suck, it definitely is hard to continue on putting on a brave face, or like you said, talking about things that just don't seem all that important. I am so glad to hear your mom is doing better. Although this year ended on a sad note with KC's grandpa, hopefully 2018 has a lot better things in store!

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  19. Happy New Year!
    I'm so glad you got to go home and spend some time with your mum, and that she is so much better now.

    It really is hard to blog when you have other things on your mind. That's part of the reason I was relatively quiet in 2017 and still haven't got round to posting about most of our trips! For me luckily no deaths in the family or health issues with family members, but when the one thing on your mind is the one thing you can't write about it's kind of hard to be motivated to post anything else. And there are only so many book posts I can write without having to label myself a "book blogger" ;-)

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  20. I'm glad your mum is doing better! I definitely stepped back from blogging in 2017 too and am trying to get back into it this year too. We'll see how that goes with the little man. I've missed your blogs, though, and am glad you are going to try to get back into it. :)

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  21. I love your posts so I hope you keep at it in 2018, even if the little and big life frustrations get in the way. I will say that it's incredibly hard when you can't do something you thought should be easy and I can see how that'll leave a mark on the year.

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  22. So glad your mum is better <3! I love your blog so will always be here to read no matter how frequent or infrequent you post :)!

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  23. I know this was such a tough year for you. I definitely agree with the 'blog when you want to' mentality. I think you had a really good year here in the internet world. I hope 2018 is a quiet yet successful year for you :)

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  24. Such a full year! I myself was on a blogging hiatus for so many reasons but I believe you are absolutely justified in taking the time. I am glad that your mum is doing better and I totally get the blog when you want mentality. I'm trying to get there myself. I hope that 2018 is a full and wonderful year for you!

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  25. THe pics all look so great! I hope 2018 is a good year for you! I look forward to following along on your blog!

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  26. Happy New Year!!
    May this New Year be special in every way ... bringing you the gift of love and excitement.
    I will introduce Japanese New Year's customs.
    In Japan, there is a New Year holiday where family and relatives get together.
    On New Year, Japanese children receive gifts of money known as "Otoshidama".
    Otoshidama is given to children by adult relatives such as uncles, aunts and grandparents.
    The amount of Otoshidama grows as the child older, for example, 1000 yen for children under 10, and 3000 yen for children over 10.
    Otoshidama is one of the exciting traditions of New Year, which children look forward to very much.
    Ryoma.

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  27. I know what you mean about it sometimes seeming weird to blog about stuff that seems insignificant when major things are happening in your life. It's weird because sometimes I think it can help, but sometimes it feels so pointless. I'm sorry about KC's grandpa-- it's so hard to lose someone, especially around the holidays. All of your Christmas get togethers sound/look like so much fun! I'm also so glad to hear your mom is doing better and I definitely want to read more about your trip to NZ when you feel like posting about it!

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  28. All of your Christmas events look so fun! I'm so sorry about KC's grandpa, but glad to hear your mom is doing better. I feel like a lot of people took breaks this year, and maybe that is just the season we're in, ya know? Here's hoping 2018 is fabulous to you!

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  29. I'm not sure if I missed it, or if maybe it just slipped my mind, but I had no idea your Mom had a stroke! I'm so sorry. How is she now? You may know that my Dad had one 19 years ago and has been in especially poor health the last few years. If you ever need to vent, you know where to find me <3

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  30. I'm so sorry to hear about KC's grandpa, but also glad to hear your mom's doing better now. It's great that you were able to get back home last year too! I can't imagine how hard it must be being so far away (although by now I'm sure it's a bit easier since it's been several years). I hope you're able to plan more trips back though - and I'd love to hear about your last one!

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  31. I can’t even imagine going though what you went through with your mom! With everything that happened with Dart it really was so hard to think about posting about trips or anything else because we were so focused on him, so I completely understand. Hopefully you’ll feel like writing again soon, but as long as I can still get book recommendations from you I’m happy! By the way I’m totally loving that you’re posting about book sales in your Instagram stories! I love finding good deals on books!

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  32. I can't even begin to imagine what it must be like for you to be so far from your Mom. I'm glad she is getting better. Take it minute by minute. I'm sorry to hear about KC's Grandpa. Losing someone around the holidays is always harder. I love your blog and you have influenced me to blog when I feel like rather than always stick to a schedule! I feel like that is better for me.

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  33. I'm sorry about your mom and KC's grandfather! I'm glad she recovered, but it must be heartbreaking to see her not back to her old self. We had some losses this year and it really does put things into perspective, and not always in a good way. You think about what really matters and what your values are, but you also have trouble focusing on things that seem trivial, which is pretty much anything in our first-world lives!

    Anyway, focusing on positives, I'm glad you guys got the house and were able to travel. I really enjoyed all the renovation posts!

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  34. I can 110% relate to the taking a step back situation. And that's okay! Sometimes we need to focus on far more important matters and then regain a focus at the direction to move forward in. I'm glad your Mum is better. I hope this year continues to get better as well!

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  35. Hey girlie! I can obviously relate to taking steps back blogging. Ive done it when it was needed for me. Im so happy to hear that you mum is on the up and up but truly sorry about KC's grandad and about whatever it is that was not easy. I hope 2018 brings blessings and all good things for you and yours.

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