Friday, October 28, 2016

The soundtrack to my life: life anthems

I used to be totally obsessed with music. I can't really explain it, so I'm not gonna try, but I am not as obsessed now. I still like music, obviously, and I still get all the feels from certain songs. Steph explained these as her life anthems and I'm not sure if mine are exactly life anthems, but when I thought of the 3 songs that meant the most to me or made me feel all the things, these three came to mind.

Affirmation by Savage Garden.

I did a post with the lyrics to this song. It's been a favourite since the moment I heard it. At first, I just liked the beat and it was a fun song. But as I got older, I had a lot of issues and really struggled to get over them. I heard this song randomly one day and for some reason, the title really stuck with me and to sum up a super long story, changed my views on things, especially myself. So much so that I wanted to get the word Affirmation tattooed on my wrist. Instead, I got cogito ergo sum which 'means' something different, but has the same meaning to me as the word and the song. 

Every time I hear this song, it makes me smile. Sometimes it makes me cry when I think about that stage in my life and what a crappy place I was in. But no matter what, smiling or crying, it always makes me want to dance.

My favourite lines:

I believe your parents did the best job they knew how to do
I believe that beauty magazines promote low self-esteem
I believe I'm loved when I'm completely by myself alone
I believe in karma what you give is what you get returned



You Don't Own Me from The First Wives Club soundtrack.

Tanya did a post on this song and you should totally check it out. The original is by Lesley Gore, and I loved all her music growing up, but it wasn't until I saw The First Wives Club movie and heard the song done by Bette, Goldie & Diane that it pretty much changed my life. 

We've all been in crappy relationships or gone through things that sucked and we gave them control over ourselves... This song validated certain feelings for me, and though I never feel like anything owns me anymore, I can't explain the rush and surge of YES ME that I get every time I hear this song. It is on every single one of my playlists, running, dancing, whatever, it's on there. 

It comes on, I sing along and I think yeah this song is okay, and next thing you know I am screaming in my car and pumping my fists and feeling ridiculously empowered and happy, like happy to be me. It always brings tears to my eyes.

My favourite lines:

I'm young and I love to be young
I'm free and I love to be free
To live my life the way that I want
To say and do whatever I please
No, no you don't own me
You don't own me
Forever young and free darling you don't own me


^ I actually prefer this version over the one in the actual movie.

Someone Like You by Van Morrison.

This is my wedding song! And yes, I say my. Because although KC was down with it and likes it too, I picked this song as my song a long, long, long time ago. It came out the year I was born, and I feel like it's a song I've always known. I hear it and I feel it deep inside, you know? Like it just makes my soul feel at peace. I was an odd child/teenager, and when people would talk about getting married or whatever, I would comment that I would never get married, not because I didn't want to, because who on earth would want to put up with me forever? I was joking, mostly, but I also kind of believed it. I wasn't sad about it, I just thought it wasn't for me. I couldn't be that perfect someone for someone else, I could barely be that person for myself.

I was working a wedding once, I was 19, and this was their first dance song, and I remember it as vividly as if it were yesterday. I can't explain it, but it felt like I was accepting myself and I would one day find someone for me, someone who kept me satisfied and made everything worthwhile, and I was waiting for them... whereas before I was feeling like I had to be the one to fit to someone else and work to make them happy and like me. I don't know why it hit me while they were dancing and I was cleaning the food off their plates, but it did.

It wasn't a flip of the switch and magically made me love myself, but it certainly got me on the right road. This song always gets me. It always makes me teary, but also makes me feel happy and hopeful and at peace. Then when I met KC, I felt like the lyrics matched us and our relationship, and when we chose our song, there was no question. Luckily, he was down. Now, every time I hear it, I still get all those same feelings but I also get a dose of happy lovey feeling too, like it is connecting the different stages of my life.

My favourite lines:

I've been doing some soul searching, to find out where you're at
I've been up and down the highway.. in all kinds of foreign lands
Someone like you makes it all worthwhile.. 

Someone like you keeps me satisfied, someone exactly like you.

I've been all around the world, marching to the beat of a different drum.
But just lately I have realised baby the best is yet to come.

In lieu of a video for this one, here is a picture of our first dance.


Looking at all of these songs together, you might think they have nothing in common, but I've just realised they do. They all taught me how to be me, how to accept and appreciate being me and to not let anyone else change that. They are definitely my life anthems, so thanks for the term Steph!

And of course, thanks for the prompt Alyssa!

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39 comments:

  1. I love that song from The First Wives Club (I love the movie, too!)

    It's such a testament to the power of music how you can hear a song once and it impacts you instantly.

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  2. This challenge is so fun, I like seeing what people choose. It's way too hard for me though. : / Xo - Alexandra

    Simply Alexandra: My Favorite Things

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  3. I love, love, love Affirmation. The lyrics just speak to me!

    I have already picked my wedding song even though Jan will most likely never marry me.

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  4. life anthems. i love this. i should totally do a post on meaningful songs because some have just been EVERYTHING. i'm a music junkie though. i am listening to it all day, while driving, and at home when i'm not on a tv kick. i only have 3 concerts on the books and that is not enough lol. love the meaning behind these songs especially the first one with affirmation. <3

    xoxo cheshire kat

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  5. I love Savage Garden and that song!! I need to give the other ones a listen. Also, how gorgeous of a bride were you?! Gah! <3

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  6. Savage Garden! wow, talk about throwback from the 90s. The only song that stuck to me from that bad was Truly Madly Deeply (that was them, right?).

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  7. I really like your second song, too. I think it's a badass ladies ballad for sure. I've never heard the Van Morrison song but I'm so glad it worked out for your and KC's wedding! I let K pick our first dance song and he picked a super sweet one from Keith Urban. It makes me happy every time I hear it now.

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  8. Oh my gosh, stop. I literally pulled up the video for You Don't Own Me from the First Wives Club this morning on YouTube when I was getting ready because it just popped in my head and I had to hear it. Get out, that is creepy!!! Love all your picks!!

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  9. I love how each song has a special meaning and has taught you things over the years! Also I had chills when you were talking about your first dance song. We picked a totally over-commercialized song, Ed Sheeran Thinking Out Loud, however; it's been a song that from the beginning just spoke to both my husband and I...so we just knew it had to be that!

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  10. I love Affirmations and the lyrics too - and I love the post you did on it. I think I might do something similar for our anniversary coming up ;) I love when lyrics really speak to you.

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  11. I love that Someone Like You was your song first and then when you met KC it just fit y'all perfectly too! I also love that all of these songs teach you to accept yourself. We here too much stuff about needing to change ourselves or that we're not good enough, when we should be happy with ourselves and know that we are good enough.

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  12. I feel embarrassed that I didn't know the You Don't Own Me that's been on the radio lately is a remake/cover! I really do love the song though and it's super empowering. I need to go listen to the original!

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  13. I love Affirmation! Such a good song. And I love the over arching themes from all three of these!

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  14. You're going to hate me for saying this... but I've never heard these songs! I can't even begin to imagine trying to find just three songs. I think it's so great you have such meaningful ones!!!

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  15. OMG I love You Don't Own me!! I also love that movie!! Oh man, I love love love love love Van Morrison. Someone like You is one of my favorite songs ever!! I love that it was your first dance song.

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  16. Oh Savage Garden, how I loved them so. I know it's a total 90's cliche but I don't care, I will love them forever and always. Also that song gets more true the older I get.

    The picture of you having a major life realisation whilst scraping plates is one that resonates with me for some reason! It's the oddest places where these things strike you :)

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  17. Isn't it amazing what music can do for your soul and whatever you're going through at that point in your life? I love all three of your songs, especially You Don't Own Me. That is the best part of that movie, and the song is so empowering for any woman!

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  18. I am LOVING this post & can totally relate to what you're saying about how you used to think there was no one out there that could put up with you forever. I have been feeling the same way. But in reality - it's waiting to find someone for you.. that makes it all worthwhile. Thank you for writing that particular part of the post.. it really spoke to me. :)

    Ciara @ EatRunLoveCiara

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  19. Good ol' Savage Garden! That song NEVER gets old!

    I love how songs can have so much power and so many memories behind them!

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  20. Once again, another fun post concept! Loved reading about your Greatest Hits and why they are meaningful to you! Now I'll spend the weekend thinking trying to figure out what mine would be because I have no clue!

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  21. I had a similar feeling about not imaginging why someone would want to live with me. Some people say that you need to love yourself first, but I think you just meet people when you meet them. I wasn't totally happy with myself when I met my husband, which I think is more romantic in a way. He was willing to join my life at a time when I didn't think it was perfect.

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  22. I've always loved that song from the First Wives Club I can just picture you singing it! lol Really cute story behind your wedding song and it sounds perfect for your relationship.

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  23. You Don't Own Me is a great song! I might need to watch the movie again :)

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  24. You have some great songs on here. Specifically You Don't Own Me. I always love that song, no matter what version I hear, but I love when Goldie Hawn, Bette Midler and Diane Keaton sing it together! I love that movie.

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  25. This is such a great idea. Love that Van Morrison song. Now I'm going to have to think of what my anthems would be! :)

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  26. Love Savage Garden. Great music!

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  27. You Don't Own Me!!!! Yes! And give me Van Morrison all day long. Lovely taste lady!

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  28. I love this! It's really awesome to see what songs are the soundtrack to someone's life. I feel like it shows and tells you a lot about the person. Great choices!

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  29. I love this idea for a post and I totally might "steal" it and credit you! And I absolutely love that you included Sound Garden (I had completely forgotten about them!) and The First Wives Club - that cracked me up! Ok, I'm totally doing this post, too.

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  30. Love how you did this list and how these songs mean so much to you. I remember your post about that Savage Garden song, and didn't we just recently talk about your wedding song? Love. And just love the love radiating out of your and KC's faces in that photo!

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  31. Love this! Was it hard to narrow it down to 3 choices? I think your reasons for choosing them make me wanna high five you . . . you rock girl!

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  32. Love Savage Garden! I haven't heard their name in a while, so this was a nice blast from the past! ALSO, a million times yes to First Wives Club and You Don't Own Me. Such good lyric so that song -- if you're looking for a new-ish version of the song, check out Grace (f g-Eazy) version of the song. I'm obsessed!

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  33. You don't own Meeeeeeeee... now I'll be singing that for the rest of the day, lol. I couldn't even narrow down to 3 choices, good on you.

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  34. When I read Tanya's post, I thought to myself "doesn't Kristen really love this song too?" Well, now I have my answer.
    As you know, I love reading posts about music and why songs and/or lyrics are important to someone, so thank you for sharing yours.

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  35. I love what you picked! And how you picked them. And why. I've debated this question over the years but wouldn't know where to start!

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  36. These are great songs! I love that song from the first wives club and I love parts of the new version if you exclude the for no reason wrap in the middle of it. I loved savage garden so much in high school and I still remember all the words!

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  37. I'm a huge fan of that song, and the movie. First Wive's Club is one of my absolute favorites.

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