Monday, August 15, 2016

The real 'before 30' list

Sometimes, I walk into the bathroom and I am surprised that I can see myself in the mirror. Because I remember, so clearly, for so long when I was younger, the mirror in my childhood home was a bit higher and I would have to stand on the edge of the bath to see myself. Obviously, that was many years ago, but it is still so fresh in my memory that I forget that I am not that child anymore. Now, when I visit my childhood home, I have to slouch because I am taller than that mirror.


Sometimes, I am doing my hair and makeup, getting ready, jamming to the spice girls or justin bieber, and my eyelid doesn't snap back as quickly as it used to when I am done with the eyeliner. It's kind of freaky. And when I am examining that, I notice little spots and lines around my eyes and mouth. I am not mad about them, but they are there.

Sometimes, in that split second in between sleep and waking up, I reach out with my foot to touch the wall. But the wall isn't there. Because I am not in my childhood bedroom, where my bed was always up against a wall.. in fact, I am not even in the same country. Normally the feeling is so fleeting that I barely register it, other times it's like a sucker punch. I lived in that room, slept in that bed, until I moved to the US.


The point of this is, when I was younger (and clueless), I always screwed my nose up and rolled my eyes when older people would say that they still felt the same, or still saw their younger selves in the mirror. I know I am only 29 but I know what they mean. I am not sad, I am not scared. It's just a bit disorienting sometimes, to have something feel so fresh and recent and you realise it was 20 years ago. Or the fact that you can say 20 years ago, but you're thinking 80s instead of 90s because the 90s were only 10 years ago, right?

Anyway. I truly am not one who is afraid of turning 30. I really am not. Life is short and I am grateful for every single day I'm living it. But I'd be lying if I said I am exactly where I thought I would be at 30. When I was 15, or 20, I thought for sure I would have kids by now. However, I thought I'd never get married or be in a long term relationship, so I am not quite sure where I was getting the kids from, but whatever. I was wrong about both, but I'm mad about neither. I like the way my life has gone.


I think it's funny that I am older now than my mum was when she had me. My benchmark for having kids was always 28 because that's how old mum was when she had me, she had Matt at 26 I think, so I don't know why I settled on 28, but whatever. I'm now approaching 30 and I think I'll be 31 - if I'm lucky enough to get pregnant when we start trying - by the time we have kids, which I never thought I would be. I don't think there is anything wrong with that though, right?


The point is, while I am okay with some things that aren't like I expected, there are certain things I wanted to do, there is a certain person I wanted to be before I turned 30.

So. I had a 30 before 30 list that, truth be told, I haven't really looked at it in 6 months. It was fun, but it was silly and my life won't change if I do or do not complete those things before my age starts with a 3. I know my birthday won't magically change anything, I still get to be me and do what I want, I don't think life will be perfect if I cross a few things off a list. But I really like lists.

So I wanted to do a 'real' before 30 list - my birthday is less than 6 months away, and while I know my life will not stop at 30, there are certain things I want to fix and leave in my 20s. I love fresh clean slates and a new decade is so shiny and pretty and I'd like to pretend not to screw it up immediately... or rather, find new ways to screw it up.


So here are 10 things - because ain't nobody got time for 30 things in 6 months - that I want to cross off my life list before I wake up a 30 year old.

1. Pay off debt.
I would like to enter my 30s with zero debt. I'm not talking debt I share with KC, like cars and house, but the stuff I've racked up by being a shopaholic. I have made this a goal every year since I was like 18, I have succeeded several times and then racked it back up. I have got to be done. I am so over this.

2. Budget & save money.
This is separate from #1, but just as important. Sometimes I think that just because we pay our bills and have a certain amount in savings, that we are doing great, because me at 20 didn't even have a savings account, let alone any money in checking. (Actually, at home, checking accounts are called savings accounts so shit just got confusing, didn't it? Guess what savings accounts are called? Savings ha). But anyway. I want lots of money in savings so I can spend it all on a trip to Australia.

3. Be the healthiest, fittest me I can be.
Hard to define, and this will always be something I am always working on. I feel pretty good about my exercise routine and habit right now, but food is a constant struggle. I would also like to lose just a little bit of weight. Not exactly a number, but based on how I look and feel.

4. Break 2 hours in a half marathon.
Will I ever let go of this goal? I am not sure if I will do this exactly before my birthday because it depends on what races I do, but I'd at least like to get faster than I am now.


5. Develop and stick to a skincare routine.
Seriously.

6. Find some doctors.
I would blame it on moving to a new country, but truthfully I didn't have specific doctors at home either, and I've lived here for 4 years, so that excuse is getting old. I have a skin cancer doctor, I need a lady doctor and a normal doctor.

7. Do yoga consistently.
I have been running off and on for like 6 (or more, I lose count) years, I have been lifting weights for over 10 years. I am not amazing at either, I'm not winning races or competing or anything, but the habit is there, that base skill or whatever. I want to get there with yoga, because my relationship with yoga is way more off than on. Nothing crazy, just maybe 3-4 times a week.


8. Get my american driver's license.
Okay, I wrote this list and then I finally went and got my permit (seriously, 4 years of procrastination will get you nowhere fast) and I have to book a driving test after 30 days. Wish me luck!

9. Book NZ & Australia trip.
Not all of it, but most of it. I still haven't actually decided if we will go to NZ, or do anything extra in Australia yet.


10. Stay happy.
All I have ever wanted was to be happy, and I'm not saying I am not happy - I am, very much. I want to stay happy. This might sound silly, but life is a bit silly. Appreciate what you have, do more of what makes you happy, stop comparing and complaining, focus on yourself and your life.



I know this is still a silly list, because 30 doesn't change anything, but I like deadlines. So, wish me luck! Also, help a girl out with a skincare routine. I use cetaphil and olay moisturiser every day. That's it. I feel like I need some masks, eye creams, night creams, a better moisturiser with more SPF and something that will magically make me look 21 again. Thanks! Seriously, throw your recommendations out or point me to skincare posts you've done, I'll be super appreciative!

66 comments:

  1. Woohoo! American driver's license!! Hopefully that's one that you'll check off the list real soon! Some of these are definitely a little harder than others--but it's nice to get a good mix. I just turned 25 which feels remarkably grown up to me...feels like I was a college student yesterday but that was seriously 4.5 years ago? What? Pretty sure one of my life goals is to never run a half-marathon, though. I'm more the stand at the sidelines and cheer for the finishers type. My husband recently ran his first half marathon in a decade, in 1 hr. 40 min. and he said that race is the reason he only does 10ks. haha! That takes a lot of running!

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  2. skincare!!! a MUST if you want to look 30 forever. i was at a bridal shower yesterday when someone asked me about my skin, was surprised that i am 40 and when i started telling them about my routine plus the fact that i started cosmetic (and natural) acupuncture (not for youth reasons initially but for hormonal reasons and now it's for youth reasons because youth), i suddenly had a crowd of 40-somethings listening intently LOL.

    you don't need much re: products; just a consistent routine that you do morning/night. cleansing and moisturizing are top priority followed by exfoliation once a week, that's it! :)

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  3. Good luck on your driver's license test!

    I was scared of turning 30, not be I feel old or because it would make me old, but because everyone else (the comparison trap thing) seemed to be in a different place at 30 and if I wasn't at that place (3 kids and a house in the suburbs?), I was doing something wrong and couldn't possibly be 30 yet. I obviously have a lot of feelings on the subject.

    And I agree with Kathy on the skincare front: had I not started selling RF, I probably wouldn't be doing it, but I started using the anti-aging line BEFORE I turned 30 and I'm hoping that pays off!

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  4. Age is an especially funny and tricky thing. I am in my 40s and my brain sometimes forgets that. Yes, there are times in which my body does not let me forget my age, but for the most part, I don't feel as old as I am. I like to think that this is good - being young at heart and in spirit. Embrace each decade, for each brings wonderful gifts.

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  5. I just had this conversation with a friend yesterday how I can remember looking in a mirror when I was young & wondering what I'd look like 'old'... & here I am going to be 45 soon. Old to that little girls standards. I'm not sure its what I envisioned - because I see that little girl in that mirror too :)

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  6. Girl you've got this! And if you get rid of debt before your 30's I'll be insanely jealous! Exercise, skincare, paying off debt, and travel - huge and worth every sacrifice and penny <3
    Green Fashionista

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  7. LOL to that first communion photo! That's awesome.

    I don't really think much about age until people ask me how old I am and I have to do math. Honestly, most of the time I feel like I'm in my 40s because a lot of my friends are older or have kids and I always think of people with kids as in their 40s. IDK why, it's just a Megan thing. When I remember I'm only 30, I feel like I can slow down a little. I don't have to rush to tick things off the list.

    I also wish for a skincare regimne. I literally want someone to write down a schedule/menu of items of when and what I need to use. I tried Mary Kay many years ago and all it did was make my skin anggggrrrry. I've considered trying the Rodan and Fields stuff, but the price makes me queasy. Granted, the people who do use it have awesome skin, but will IIIII have awesome skin? That is the question.

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  8. I'm definitely not where I thought I'd be at 30 and you know what? I'm fine with it! Why should you bend to ideas of where you thought you'd be at a certain age when you were young any way? And I think all of your goals before 30 are attainable, you got this! <3, Pamela Sequins & Sea Breezes

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  9. ah i love you and your lists. it's a good one! especially that last one. i think it's def true that we always think we'll be at a certain place at every age/milestone. my mom had me at 28 too and here i am 33 and single so yeah - def not the same! weirded me out when i was 29 then 30 and not there either but it's good to be different and take our own path. you have good goals and i think you're on the right track for all. hell with the working out and the half marathon goal - i saw you run that 9 miles on snap and i was inspired!

    xoxo cheshire kat

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  10. This is a great list! I totally feel you on clean slates and big goals. I always figured I would have kids super young. Which, ha, I guess I still am pretty young, but before now. haha I have this idea of needing to have my shit together beforehand, which seems impossible either which way, but having it laid out into specifics is probably good for many reasons. I definitely want to get to Europe, buy a house, and get a second car first. The other things need some more thought. Good luck with all of your goals, I am sure that you will do great!! For my skincare I have been using ACURE Organics since college. It was a tad pricey upfront, but I loooove it, and the products last for YEARS. Here is a post that I did in 2012 (jesus) ... the photos are super old, but I am still using the line of products: http://simplyalexandramyfavoritethings.blogspot.com/2012/05/acure-organics-perfect-skincare-line.html They all look different now (come in plastic squeeze tubes - rather than glass), so keep that in mind. Seriously though... it lasts forever. I know that Target sells a handful of their stuff now too... and I have also tried the scrub - which is great. I'll have to do another process post sometime soon! I dunno, but I love them! :) Good luck! XO - Alexandra

    Simply Alexandra: My Favorite Things

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  11. These are great goals and something that will benefit you so much when you get into the routine of them. I am struggling so hard with the clean eating thing. I just need to do it because I know it makes me feel better...but gosh I love fried foods!

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  12. I love this real before 30 list! Clean slates & big goals are the best - especially when you get to mark those goals off as complete. Good luck with accomplishing things on this list over the next 6 months :)

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  13. Don't know where you thought the kids were gonna come from. Haha.

    Literally the BF & I were just sitting last night looking at pictures & we've both aged so much in the past 2 years, which maybe is a bad thing since that's how long we've known each other.

    30 is just such an odd age, because for so long it was so old, and now that I'm getting closer, I hang out with 30 year olds all the time, and I forget they're 30, because we're pretty much exactly the same. Which is also odd.

    I also probably need a skin care routine, because I was my face with bar soap.

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  14. I love this! I always used to use the age my mom had me as my benchmark for having kids too (she was also 28!) I'm always shocked with movies that I think were recent because they were in the early 2000's and then it's like oh wait, that was actually quite a long time ago! Everything on your list is so great and I love how you picked things that encompass every part of your life-- 10 is my favorite, even if it's probably the hardest to actually measure.

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  15. I hope you know that you inspire me. Seriously! Your outlook and perspective on things really resonate with me. I can't wait to see what you do over the next six months and beyond after you turn 30. I can relate at not being where I thought I'd be at this stage in my life, but I also wouldn't trade anything that I currently have, you know? Embrace it, and be happy, girl!

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  16. That's a great list. I used to feel the same about 28 & having kids. Honestly, for awhile I thought I'd be married & have at least 1 kid by 25 because I was in a long-term relationship with a guy & I just assumed we'd get married when I graduated college. But like you, my mom had me at 28 so that's always been a marker for me too. My parents go married at 26 so that was also a marker. But here I am, 69 days away from turning 28 & I definitely won't be married or have kids by then. And that's ok.

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  17. I feel ya on thinking the 90s was like, 10 years ago. Sometimes I catch myself driving to my parents house when I'm actually supposed to be driving to my home. (I live in the same town as my parents.) It's so weird.
    I like your checklist, especially the "stay happy" goal. I totally get it. I always told people that I wanted to be happy when they'd ask what I wanted to be when I grew up. I struggled with anxiety and depression a lot when I was a teen so I'm all about staying happy and healthy :)

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  18. Great list. I think it's important to have goals and whatnot. However, I probably have missed every single benchmark there is. haha I use to think I would always get married and have children but it so not gonna happen for me and I'm ok with it. It is what it is. Being healthy and happy are the most important thing. You can have all the money in the world, but if you don't have your health, you have nothing.

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  19. you will love 30, I promise!!! I'm a much older lady at 35, so listen to your elders. ;-) I had my first baby at 31, and I am so glad I waited a bit.. lived it up in my 20's, enjoyed life.. we paid off debt before too and it was a huge feeling of relief when it was time to have a family. I think you are doing things fabulously by enjoying life as it is. xoxoxo

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  20. Absolutely nothing wrong with the age that you want to have a family - it's all about when it's right for you! You're goal of staying happy is amazing - you're such a fun and lighthearted person and I love reading all your goals!! xo, Biana -BlovedBoston

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  21. It's not a silly list at all. Good luck in your pursuits!

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  22. I am totally with you on not being where I thought I would be at my age. My parents were super young when they had me. While I by no means was trying to go for that, I figured I would have had kids before 30. And here I am about to turn 33 in just a few days and I am just now getting started. I am going to be the old mom at the daycare lol. Whatever. It's life. I love your list, I think you can totally cross all of those off!!

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  23. The entire year of 4th grade I wore this pink hat every day and I remember at that time I was just tall enough that I could see the pink hat in the bathroom mirror but not any of my face.
    Great list! Consistent yoga and <2 hr half marathon are on my wish list for the next six months too. I use Clinique face stuff which is pricy but I love it (and hopefully is helping my skin stay youngish, I did have someone ask me at church yesterday if I was in college(!) but in general I'll see photos from 3 years ago and think, "Yikes, These kids have aged me." I suppose they are worth a few more wrinkles. ;-) And in general I am so much happier now at 35 than I was at 30, I think you have lots to look forward too in your 30s!

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  24. This is such a great list! Makes me want to look at what I want to accomplished before 30...just a little less than 8 months for me!

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  25. Nothing about this is silly . . . I totally get it. And as the old lady blogger at 43, I can assure you that you will continue to realize that age really is just a number. Mentally I still feel so young . . . my joints may occasionally disagree but you know what I mean. And I think your list is amazing but will stick with you throughout life . . . and that's okay. At least you have a list and give a heck! Here's my advice . . . tackle those goals and keep doing your best . . . travel as much as you can . . . sleep as much as you can . . . relax as much as you can . . . and for sure laugh as much as you can. You can do anything you set your mind to for sure! And I love the old photos - those are the best.

    As for skincare . . . I totally recommend using an eye cream twice daily in addition to cleansing and moisturizing. Oh, and LOTS of SPF and staying out of the sun if you can! I love to have all kinds of eye creams but even just using the Olay (little clear tub of clear gel) is better than not using one at all! I also like the Wexler brand of products from Bath & Body Works. And I have a clinical skin care line called Societe that I use a lot. I'd recommend them all but most importantly is just trying things and seeing what you like! All the hearts to you girl!

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  26. I'm three months away from 30 and feel the same way. Nothing feels that crazy different but it also feels like a big milestone. I need to sit down and think and write about what I've done before 30 and what I've learned. Thanks for some inspiration!

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  27. I absolutely loved this list and my favorite note was about being happy. Seriously isn't that the most important life goal? Also, yes to taking care of your skin. Eye creams all day long! <3

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  28. So I have to admit that 30 doesn't freak me out as much as turning 28 did because that was the same age that my mom was when she had me, and it was almost like me looking at my life and wondering if I really had my stuff together. Like you, I'm happy where I am in life, and even though it's not exactly what I pictured when I was younger, I don't know if it can really get much better (unless I win the lottery and don't have to work again). I love your real 30 before 30 list and how all of your goals are doing something better for you as a person!

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  29. That's a brilliant list! I have to say that I'm loving the clean slate of being 30 so far. It's only been a couple of months so I'm definitely not an expert but so far it's amazing. I hope you manage to get your list done in the run up, and that it's a useful motivator for you. Do you have something in particular planned for celebrating your birthday?

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  30. It seriously blows my mind that the 90's weren't like yesterday. How in the world has it been 20 years?! I don't think I've had a normal doctor since I left home at 18 either, ha. Love your list, especially #10. All very doable!

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  31. I'm turning 30 at the end of the month and I gave myself two things to do- buy bras that fit and new makeup! :)

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  32. Great things to check off before turning 30! Staying happy and appreciating what you have are great goals for any age :)

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  33. Those surreal moments really can be quite something I've found! I love your list! And as a 33 year old (don't look a day over 17) I find that it'll all be good in the hood.

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  34. Honestly the 30's are some of the best years yet and it really matters how you feel not really the number on your ID. It took me almost 10 years to find a primary physician in the US so I know how that goes!! lol Good luck with your driving exam! I failed on my first try because I accidentally pulled out on the wrong side of the road. haha SO don't do that, mkay?

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  35. My Mum had me when she was 30 (and six months) and she always says that her thirties was the best time of her life. A lot of my friend's had younger mums, however, none of them had (or have) the relationship I have with my Mum. Sure, it's probably more likely due to the fact that we have similar personalities - but I think it also has a lot to do with the fact that she'd done all of "her" things and genuinely wanted to devote her life to me.

    Your real before thirty list sounds PERFECT! I feel you on the skincare routine side of things. I am constantly chopping and changing and being lazy and leaving bits off and I really need to sort myself out too!

    Staying happy is definitely the most important thing on the list though! <3

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  36. The best list!! Honestly 30 isnt that bad - I havent felt it like I thought I would. Also love your last goal. Thats honestly the very best goal!

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  37. Love this post! I'm 28 now and I wrote a 30 before 30 and I haven't done a single thing. At least I don't think. I wrote it in March and haven't looked at it since. womp womp But I love your list of 10 so much! My mom was my age when she had me and I've already started to hear about. Well not that exactly, just that all her friends have grandkids and she doesn't. It's annoying. But anyway. I love that last one...stay happy. Really I think that's all that matters. So good job you! :)

    PS. I read your Friday post right after this and LOVE your stack of library books. lol I saw a few that are look interesting...just from the the binding! lol

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  38. Another member of the not where I thought I'd be club checking in. I don't know what my plans really were or what I thought I'd be doing, but I definitely figured I would have a more normal/traditional life since I was kind of on that path (married, house, career, all that jazz) fairly young anyway. I definitely didn't plan on uprooting my whole life at 25. Some days I wish I had just stayed the course, or that I had gone into engineering the first time like I started to, but I can't change it now. There are definitely pros and cons.
    As for kids...oy. When I was much younger I thought I'd have kids in my early 20s because my mom had me when she was 29 and I thought she was SO old growing up. So I didn't want to be an old mom like her. Oops, sorry to any future child I might have. I freaked out when I turned 28 because I realized I was really close to how old my mom was when she got pregnant with me and it really made me realize how I was so not in that same place, like not even a little bit. My mom had me two weeks after she turned 29, and I will be getting an Ironman medal three weeks after my 29th birthday so yeah, that's how things are going for me haha.
    I made a 30 Before 30 lost several years ago and while there are plenty of things I could do and kind of want to do, I don't really need to do any of them. I think the essence of the goals were to keep me healthy and happy, so as long as I'm working on that, even if it's in different ways than I planned when I was younger, that's fine with me. If you achieve none of these goals then I hope it's because you found another, better way to achieve #10!

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  39. Okay, that first picture is amazing! I look at my hands sometimes and think they are starting to look my mom's, ha! I swear the hands are where we show our age first.

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  40. There is nothing silly about this list. I think they are all great objectives. I enjoyed all the pictures :)
    Skincare routine...I'm terrible, but I am consistent. I have used Vaseline, yes Vaseline, to remove my eye make-up ever since I started wearing make-up. It's cheap, easy, doesn't sting my eyes, and removes everything, even those hard to remove 24 hour eyeliners or waterproof mascaras. And, I use Oil of Olay moisturiser with sunscreen. That's it. No magical skin care regimes here.
    "Stay happy" makes me happy.
    Book Australia trip makes me happier...selfishly :)

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  41. Whoaa--how does the driving thing work? Or are you just using a license from Australia? OR were ya ridin' dirtyyyy? Awww yeah!

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  42. I'm kind of the opposite. I think if anything, I want to leave the mindset and goals of the 20s behind. A lot of them are still good goals and I still want to be generally healthy and keep improving myself, but I'm also tired of constantly having a project to work on. Maybe the year of 29 will be taking a break and just enjoying how far I've come already. (Although, knowing me, I'd be surprised if that attitude lasts more than a month or two. :P)

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  43. My plan was to always be married with children by the time I was 16 as I thought that was really grown up. 30, single and childless - not how I thought things would work out at all.

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  44. I should probably make a list too. If I did, I think a healthier me would definitely be on there, saving enough to get Lasik, paying off debt. My mom was married at my age, too.

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  45. Yes woman, to all of these things! I wasn't afraid to turn 30, necessarily, but it is one of those benchmark things that get you thinking about your life. Now that I'm in it, I feel the same but I also feel a bit old...I don't know how to explain it--but it seems like suddenly, the world sees us differently when we're 30.

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  46. I love this list!! LOVE IT. Especially the staying happy part -- people always forget that it's a choice to be happy -- shitty things will happen, but gotta stay positive yo. Saving money has always been a giant issue for me as well, because, shopping, but I have faith in you! Good luck with all your goals!

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  47. This is a great list! I share a lot of similar goals with budgeting, getting back to the fittest version of me, and running another half-marathon. I am confident you will achieve your goals!

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  48. I totally feel the same way. Sometimes I will think about people I know and realize that I have known that person for 20 or 30 years and it FREAKS ME OUT. Sometimes I will think about a song and realize it is 20 years old and it also FREAKS ME OUT. Like when did we get old enough to have things in our lives that long? I share most of the things on your list and frankly I think most people do (or should). Good luck on your goals! You are killing it at the gym so check that one off your list! #winning

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  49. I wouldn't say this is a silly list at all! It's a great list and it's very practical! I think it's great to have goals and to write them down (and even share with the internet). It's a huge motivator! It's also funny how as kids we set ages by which we will do things (marriage, babies etc.)...as if life works that way and lets you plan things by the number! Not so much!

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  50. Loved reading this and for some reason, I almost shed a tear! (A happy one) it's so true! I turn 30 in March and while I'm not scared..I'm in shock. I can't wait for yall to start with babes - that's when the 'time flies' thing really hits hard! These are excellent goals btw and you got this! Happy Wednesday friend! Xo

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  51. First of all, the way you started this post was lovely and I could feel your nostalgia and my own at the same time. It is bizarre how some days we wake up, perfectly cemented in our current lives, and others we wake up without a clue how we got from there to here. I think your logic about your 30x30 list is sound and smart.

    I also think your 10 items for the next 6 months are wonderful goals that you can accomplish. Can I help with 1 and 2? Can we help each other with 4?!

    For #7, here's something worth considering: For a long time, I took a yoga class once a week. I home practiced the other days, but I didn't do any other lifting/running at all. Once a week. I have a few friends and a boyfriend who take one class a week. That IS enough, at least if you're okay with it being so, and it's a fantastic starting point. Replacing one run or gym day with one class per week is a solid plan. You don't have to jam yoga into your schedule 3-4 times a week to feel like you're getting benefits. Even my trainer only practices 2x/week—and she doesn't have a full-time job, go to the gym or run. Food for thought.

    #10 sounds brilliant. I'll add that goal to my list too. <3

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  52. This is a wonderful list! Definitely get on the skincare, I know I'm only 31 but I can definitely tell the difference in my skin from when I was in my 20s. Skincare is super important plus it's really luxurious and a good self-care item. The debt thing will just be a constant struggle for me especially since we do have a kiddo and it seems like the minute I get something paid off something breaks and we need to get something else!

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  53. Girl I've lived in Dallas now for 4 years and I only have a lady doctor and that's only because I had kids! I see her for anything health related. You'll turn 30 and not feel remotely different than you did at 29. And I think having your first baby at 31 sounds perfect! That's when I had my second, but it was only 19 months after my first soooo... I look at people having kids in their mid 20s and think NOOOOO go play, go travel, go do you! All that stops after kids! So you're doing it right (or, at least the right way to me)

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  54. Wait... the 90's weren't just ten years ago?! Seriously, this happens to me all the time, ha!

    For skincare I've found that I love Aveeno's products. They work well for me. My favorites are their Ultra Calm Foaming Cleanser (for the morning) and Positively Radiant Scrub for before bed. I also use the Aveeno Positively Radiant face moisturizer both AM and PM after washing my face. I haven't looked into eye creams and such yet, but maybe I should. Let me know if you find anything you like!

    The doctors thing made me laugh. I have lived in Memphis for 8 years and I still haven't been to a Primary Care Physician. I've had a dentist and an OBGYN both of whom I have loved since we moved here. And now a specialist who deals with some of the health stuff I've had going on the past couple of years, but still no Primary Care Physician. The problem is that one of my best friends is a PCP (she's actually Christopher's) so any time I have a sickness (which isn't often), I just text her and ask if I can wait it out or if I really need to come in. So far, I've managed to never need to actually see her. So while I consider her my PCP, I'm technically not even a patient on file at her office, ha! It's on my list of things to do to actually go in to see her just to get a round of blood work done. So I'll join you in that goal, haha!

    I keep starting and stopping with yoga. About once a year I think that I should try it again and I do for a week or two and then forget about it. Let me know if you find a routine you really like and I'll give it a go again!

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  55. I'm loving all the advice in the comments here! What a great list! I think it's always great to have goals and yours sound very attainable overall! Stay happy is such a great one :D

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  56. ahh you're reading my mind. I turn 30 in a little less than a year and have never made a list like this. I am also super happy about how life has ended up, I totally resonate with what you are saying. thanks for the inspiration, I'm going to make a list too! #3 for realllllll.

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  57. I totally get it!!!! It's so strange being 25 now, and thinking back to how I thought life WOULD BE (and its so not that way at all - but like you said, I'm okay with that)! I think every one of your goals is so awesome. You can do this girl!

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  58. I think the thing that really weirds me out and makes me feel 'old' (like not old old...but like some things were SO long ago) is having satellite radio and the songs saying what year they came out. Like, 2004? Wait...I thought that song was popular five years ago. I follow my university on Instagram and they do a #pugetsoundbound hashtag every year so it's all these kids going to school (mostly freshmen, I think) and I'm like HOLY CRAP because it does not feel right that that was me seven years ago. I like this list. I've always considered doing a 30 before 30...but then I'm like...I don't want to like, climb a mountain or go skydiving. And I don't want to put things on it like 'have kids' because what if I end up being infertile or something and then that just sucks. I don't know. UGH.

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  59. I love the self-love and self-awareness that comes through in this post. You are already on track to having a wonderful life if you just appreciate how far you've come and resolve to be gentle with yourself as you go further.
    All the best with your goals

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  60. The other day, one of the young guys on base said he didn't know who Jim Henson was and I felt that smack me in the face as how old I was. So boggling when I realize I am not a teenager/kid anymore. I don't know where I saw myself at 30 when I was a kid.. I am a year away now, and I probably thought I would be living in a studio apartment in NYC doing whatever things I thought would be cool then. I never saw myself with a husband/kids, but now I feel so totally opposite. So much happier with the way things have gone. I love your goals. They are very doable. I had the same goal of paying off debt before I quit my job - I wanted to work until I had my car paid off (although I know that's not quite your goal). Paying off debt is such a good feeling. I hope I can put fitness back as a goal after baby. I miss running/getting a good workout.

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  61. "because the 90s were only 10 years ago, right?" < < I think this ALL the time. hahaha

    This is a great list. I'm 31, and life does not look like what I thought it would at this age, but I think that's the point. Life is still good, and plans need to fall by the wayside. Keep on being you. I need to do more yoga too, that's always on my list :)

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  62. I love this list! Your goals are all attainable actually attainable, and I especially love that your last one is to stay happy. Awww!

    I thought I would have kids by the time I was 30 and I literally cried on my 30th birthday because I hadn't achieved that dream and thought I would never be a mother, like at 30 a switch would magically flip and I would no longer be able to conceive. My mum had me at 20, which was waaay too young, but because of her I always wanted to be a youngish mother who would actually be able to relate to my kids. I'm now 33 and still childless. Also, I'm ashamed to say I have no skincare routine. I own anti-wrinkle products but always forget to use them *blush*. I almost never wear makeup though, so at least there's no chance of me ever forgetting to remove it ;-)

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  63. This isn't a silly list at all! It's good to have goals! I wasn't scared to turn 30 either (29 was a tad scary though lol), but I totally get what you mean about expectations you had at a younger age. I thought for sure I'd have 3 kids by the time I was 30. Because that's what my mom and all my friends mom's did. Now I probably won't ever have 3 kids, and if I do, they will all be while I'm in my 30s. Thankfully, I feel like the 30s of today are much different than the 30s of yesterday. Also, my husband turned 40 today, so I will always feel quite young next to him, hahaha ;) I have no skin care routine suggestions, I wish I did! I need some too. Right now I use baby wipes to clean my face (seriously) and nivea cream daily. I need help too. Haha!

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  64. Looove this! I thought about starting a 30 before 30 list and quickly realized how silly it was. I really like your idea of starting off your 30's with a clean slate and focusing on so many great things that will continue to affect you for many years in the future! Such as your health, workout routines, and skincare regimen. About that skincare thing.. I've been telling myself for a year or more that I need to get serious about it too! I recently bought the brand No. 7 night and day cream. I didn't have the extra money at the time to buy the serum as well. But I read good reviews on it and it's a little more affordable than some of the other options I've heard good things about as well (Beauty Counter and Roden Fields).

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  65. This is so great. I SO relate to still thinking the 90s were only 10 years ago. It's kind of freaky when I'm talking about something and am like "oh yeah 20 years ago this happened." Where's the time going?! I love your list of things and #10 is the best. Happiness trumps all!

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  66. That's a fabulous list and it's such a beautiful list, like these are all things we should aim to do and I hope you achieve them! Go you! You can definitely do it :)

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