Tuesday, October 27, 2015

Getting back on track with goal setting

I don't think I am the only one who has that number. The number on the scale that we have never gone over, or maybe we have gone over it but when we lose the weight we tell ourselves 'I will never see that number again'.

I know that the scale is stupid and my self worth is not tied to that number. I know this. You don't need to tell me. I am not saying it is. I'm not asking for you to tell me I don't need to lose weight. I would get rid of the scale, but I don't want to.

Back to the number. Slowly but surely, the number on the scale has been going up and up, and I just sit there and watch it, munching on some chips and washing everything down with a sprite. It's like, I hate it, I want that number to go down, but I'm not doing anything to stop it.

The number that used to scare me is now my new normal.

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The thing is, I am finally in a spot where I don't look in the mirror and hate myself. It was never weight related, it was in my head. I don't say mean things to myself anymore. I don't actively hate myself or try and skip meals to lose weight. To me, that is seriously amazing and worth more than the number on the scale. However. I'd really like my clothes to fit.

I finally feel like my mind is in a good spot, I want my health and weight to catch up.

I know I talk a lot about getting back on track, it's been awhile since I have actually been on track. Since the button says a 'goal setting link-up' I thought I should get back to setting goals, rather than making fun of being my lazy habits.

Because we all know baby steps are where it's at, I only want to make one goal right now.


From today to the next Training for Tuesday link up, I want to work on my eating habits.

Because 'working on my eating habits' is fairly vague, here are the guidelines I want to stick to:

  • no eating out for lunch. There are no healthy options and it just starts a snowball of eating badly.
  • no sprite. Don't drink your calories, yo.
  • eat some fruits and vegetables.
  • portion control. You are not your husband, Kristen.

We are going to Disney in a couple of weeks. I'm not going to pretend I will be eating healthy there. Not gonna happen. But I'm also going to not eat everything in sight just because I can.

So there you go. Of course I want to exercise and hopefully lose weight, but I am not focusing on those. Getting my eating under control, especially before the holiday season, is my main focus and goal right now.

Linking up with Tracy & Alyssa.

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Anyway, sorry I know this wasn't a super exciting post. Thank you for sticking with me constantly talking about the same things. Any tips on getting back on track for eating healthy?

65 comments:

  1. Baby steps really are where it is at. The scale is def not my friend, I let the number determine how I feel. I actually didn't step on a scale for over a year and am finally now at a place where when I do get on the scale I don't care what the number says I just focus on how my body feels. But man it sure is a hard cycle to break!

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  2. Ugh I stepped on a scale yesterday and was so frustrated with the number it read. But like you, I haven't really been doing much to change it so it's my own fault. I need to make adjustments to my eating habits too, thanks for the inspiration girl! <3, Pamela Sequins & Sea Breezes

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  3. I am literally on the same boat! I am excited to follow along with your goals and will happily help hold you accountable because Lord knows I need that too! I agree with the no eating out for lunch, anytime I eat out for lunch I just binge and it all starts over again.
    Linds @ Not A Mom

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  4. I don't own any scales, which is a good start, I just go by what clothes size I am. However that's so variable depending on what shop you're in, and I swear from one day to the next I'll look in the mirror and look about 3 sizes different. Anyway, I need to fix my eating as well as my exercising so I've got quite some way to go! The thing about not being your husband made me chuckle. Been there!

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  5. Setting goals is tough, but when you're ready to attempt the work behind them, they are pretty awesome. Our worth isn't tied to a scale number, but usually, that scale number links to how our clothes fit and how our bodies feel. I think your guidelines are great, especially not drinking calories. Crazy how quickly they add up, right? Have you tried the Dasani flavored water or Le Croix? Great options and NO CALORIES! Ugh, the dreaded husband portion control. Before I met my husband my portions were pretty on point, but now, I eat like him because I can. DUDES are so lucky!

    You've got this, lady!!!! ROCK IT YOU!

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  6. I am really prone to disordered eating so this post truly hits home for me. Either I give no shits what I eat or I'm excessively restricting. It's my biggest fitness flaw. People say don't pay attention to the number on the scale but umm I passed my "never again" number 20 pounds ago and damn it, that's scary.
    Also, "portion control" is so where it needs to be for me too! My boyfriend is huge and umm, I need to stop trying to eat like him LOL

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  7. I think it's great that you're in the right head space right now, and that you're making small, attainable goals. That's the important part. Whatever encouragement or support you need, you've got it here! Get it girl!!

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  8. Excellent guidelines! You've got this, girl!

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  9. getting back on track - no tips; you just do it. that's how i do. since i've had a taste of ice cream (on the cruise), i legit thought about it EVERY DAMN DAY last week and wanted it so bad but nope, not gonna happen. i am not controlled by food and it has no power over me! (what i tell myself when i fight cravings). now i'm good :)

    so you just do it. you just don't eat the bad stuff and eat the good stuff. keep doing that and voila! no more cravings.

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  10. Those sound like good, reasonable goals. I am slowly creeping up to my heaviest and I need to work on the healthy eating habits, too. You can do it!!

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  11. Good for you! When I first saw the thumbnail image I thought it was going to be your number and was like wooooow that's brave! I'm trying to refocus on eating and changing up my futness activities to be more calorie killers instead of just training miles. Good luck!

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  12. Good luck with eating healthy Kristen! I love how you are doing this for you, to feel your best (and look cute in clothes) and not because you want to be a certain number. That's great to hear :) I will keep you accountable on snapchat ;)

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  13. Awesome goals gurlie! I'm all about bringing my own lunch to work and not drinking my calories. After my cup of coffee in the morning it's water all day every day (well except for my adult beverages on the weekends). You've got this, and I love that you're going to enjoy your vacay in Disney <3

    Green Fashionista

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  14. Baby steps are good! Living with my parents for the next 8 months means that there is always, always, always delicious food on the table at dinner. I've had to learn how to portion control again because it's so hard to turn down seconds when they're that good! Good luck with your healthy eating goals - I think you've picked some good ones that are definitely attainable!

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  15. Oddly enough, my post is super similar to yours this morning! Imagine that!!! We have got this girl! Let's keep up with those sweaty selfies and maybe even a few shared healthy eats photos to keep each other motivated :)

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  16. I'm the same way. The number I am now used to scare me but now it's my new normal. I hate it and want to get back on track but I also am so tired after work that I just want to do anything but go to the gym. These are great goals!

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  17. Awe friend, I'm with you in an entirely different way. Since I'm pregnant, that number has crept up. It's supposed to. But it still sucks! It's so true that eating is what makes or breaks you - you can run a half marathon, and completely nullify the calories burned with one cheeseburger, fries and bud light out at any of the big chains. ONE BURGER. Isn't that crazy? People tend to way over estimate what they burn in a workout and way under estimate what they consume. I think if you can start to make your own lunches and cute back on the soda, you're start to see positive changes that same week. Not kidding! I have a rule to never eat lunch out and to never even buy soda or juice. Too much sugar! And I'm about 8 pounds lighter with this baby than I was with Henry, so I'm sticking to it!

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  18. Good for you for setting some specific goals and wanting to make better food choices! The eating is the hardest part to me. I love working out and could do it all day and LOVE it. But I don't like giving up good food. In all honesty being on social media (which is still quite new to me) it always makes me feel like everyone gets to eat a lot more than I do and they manage to stay thin. That's a frustrating, discouraging feeling and I haven't quite figured out how to counteract that. (Not saying I'm unhappy with my weight...just that it seems to take me a lot more work to get there!) Uh...sorry for turning this about me. Just wanting to say I support you and understand the struggle!

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  19. Ugh, I remember skipping meals, just to get that scale down to where I thought it should be. It's so hard, so baby steps are where it's at. And if that doesn't work, Nadine can always come and steal your scale too.

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  20. I am working on getting away from "that number" this month as well. No one told me that I would gain weight during marathon training, but that's exactly what happened. So, I'm back to portion control, counting my calories, and I signed up for a diet bet (dietbet.com) to give myself some monetary incentive to lose the weight. It works for sticking to my race goals, so hopefully it'll help me stick to my eating/weight goals as well! Good luck to you!

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  21. I need to snap my eating back into shape too.

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  22. That portion control, though. I make sure that I dish up my own dinner plate because otherwise two equal servings go into bowls and my 'leftovers' always end up in my mouth and not left over at all. Wishing you luck with your healthy plans this fall!

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  23. I completely understand where you're coming from. The snowball effect is bad for me too! For both the gym and eating... If I skip the gym a couple times then I stop going. I usually say "to hell with eating healthy" on weekends and lately that attitude is seeping into my week days.... Definitely hard! I've gotten a lot better with not feeling incredibly guilty or focusing on it to the point where I don't think of anything else. But it's not great to see and feel the results of being careless for a few weeks/months. I'm with you on that!

    I'm just glad that I signed up for dance classes with a friend which makes it really hard to bail. So at least there's that!

    Baby steps, girl. I'll trying right along with ya :) Good luck!!!

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  24. I definitely think baby steps are key to making changes that stick - like cutting out the eating out for lunch. That definitely can have a snowball effect and BONUS! - think of the $ you can save! Every little bit adds up! I like what you said about when you go to Disney... About not denying yourself, but not going crazy either. Moderation is a valuable practice.

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  25. Girl, I hear you! I think you have the right idea, though. Just start somewhere and take it slow - these types of things take time!

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  26. Girl let me tell you, I am literally in the same boat. I'm addicted to sugar so it's like, "you should totally eat those carrot sticks instead of all the Flipz pretzels" and it was screwing me up so bad because then I just wanted to chocolate covered pretzels even more. So now I tell myself "eat the carrots, THEN have the sweet and salty deliciousness". Also, flavored sparkling water...it helped me get over my sprite addiction (although I still splurge on a Dr. Pepper occasionally). Send me a message whenever you need help/motivation because I'm right there with you !

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  27. I think you have some great goals - they're really similar to mine when I'm trying to cut back. Mostly, don't drink calories, avoid eating out and exercise. And definitely don't cut yourself off on vacation, what's the point of going on a nice vacation if you can't fully enjoy yourself?

    xx, Carly | carly blogs

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  28. Every little bit helps, and I always say what works for someone, might not work for another. Keep doing what your doing girl and im sure you come to a great balance. :) HAPPY TUESDAY!

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  29. Not drinking your calories is so important!! I'm in the same boat as you, the number I used to be scared of is my normal number and I can't get it to go away, but I'm ok with how I look so I'm trying not to focus on it. Good luck with your goals, you can do it!!

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  30. I totally had a melt down before work one day last week. I had just had enough of everything (work, inconsiderate people, my lack of self motivation...etc.) and I was like.... why can't I make myself do things that are good for me? KC and I talked it out for like 45 minutes in the car. Luckily, since then, we've been doing better. Baby steps, yes, but that's better for sure. We've decided that if we pack afternoon snacks for work ( we are not snackers! ) we can eat them, and come home to do yoga before cooking dinner. That way we (I!) don't get all hangry... and refuse to yoga and then want to grab food on the way home. Because I could seriously eat dinner at 4:30 pm. We make those little apple "cookies" with sliced apples and PB + some mini chocolate chips, hummus and pretzels or carrots, beef jerky (there is a turkey one I want to try that doesn't have all the nasty chemicals...), Kind bars, celery with PB, hard boiled eggs, dried fruit covered in dark chocolate. Nothing insanely healthy, but nothing just THE WORST for us either. Should help, and eating at home more does for sure. I used to hate soda, never bought it, only got it at the movies or with burgers or pizza when we went out occasionally. Now I must be mildly addicted... so we make sure to only buy the teeny cans... and i never let myself have more than one. Hoping this plan has us eating better overall, with cooking dinner more at home, and then with the snack doing yoga at night whether right after work or before bed. On a good night maybe it would even happen twice.. ? :) haha XO -Alexandra

    Simply Alexandra: My Favorite Things

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  31. Thank you for being so honest with us about your goals, they are seriously so relatable! A helpful thing for me is just not going to the grocery store when I am hungry. If I go right after a meal, then I am way more likely to stick to buying things that are healthy and I won't be as impulse to buy something I shouldn't. That helps to eat better and spend less money!

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  32. Yep... the number I used to cringe at is the new normal for me =\ I still cringe, but you get what I'm saying ;) I have definitely stopped drinking my calories and I think that has helped me the most. Still a long way to go, but I'm working on my eating habits too! We got this!!! :)

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  33. Portion control is my failure. I totally think I can eat like my husband....um....no? I hate the scale and haven't stepped on one in a while now....mostly because it sends me into a tailspin of unhealthy eating. Either I don't eat at all *cringe* or I eat everything out of spite *double cringe*

    Good for you for setting new and reasonable goals!

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  34. I don't have a scale, but my clothes always let me know what's up. I was having way too many celebratory drinks right before we moved to Charleston. That's something I've really buckled down on. Don't drink your calories is right! I was feeling so crappy that it made giving up the booze pretty easy. I haven't given it up altogether and usually have some wine on either Friday or Saturday and I will drink if it's a special occasion, but now that I feel so much better I don't want to start again. It's actually making me make healthier decisions in all aspects of my life and I just don't want to feel crappy again. I guess that's the good news though. As hard as making healthier decisions can be at first, once you start seeing results and feeling great you don't really want to go back! And I really want to look good in my bikini in Jamaica in January!

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  35. oh don't I know that feeling ... ugh, I hate when I'm in a streak like that, knowing full well but I can't seem to break it for some reason! It does take baby steps getting back. for me is starts the next time I grocery shop, I try my darndest to just not bring stuff in that I know I will mindlessly eat.

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  36. I always end up eating like John does, which is RIDIC because he works construction, lifts weights, and is like 6'2". I need to stop!

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  37. You can do it!! I know your struggle. Believe me. As I'm taking baby steps to getting my fitness goals in order, my eating habits could use a little work. It's not as easy as it looks. lol

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  39. "The thing is, I am finally in a spot where I don't look in the mirror and hate myself." This is a HUGE accomplishment and I am so, so proud and so very happy for you to have arrived here. It's a great springboard for the next step: aligning your goals and your habits. You CAN do this, and I know you want to. You're now on track to making it all mesh together. Text me whenever you want someone to knock that Sprite out of your hand, k? You have 1000% of my support and encouragement. You are amazing, my friend.

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  40. I stuck with a loose DIY 21 day fix about a month ago (the food part of it) and I was shocked to discover the portions that added up to certain calories. That was definitely eye opening for me and I never found myself hungry in any way. We pack our lunches and I bring a morning & afternoon snack (protein & veggies or fruit usually)...salads in a jar are great for lunches!! I think this is a great post that resonates with so many people. I also think it's great that your mind is in the right place but your goal is simply to improve your health. Go for it!!!

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  41. Definitely start small and go from there. The good news was the part in the beginning of your post - that you can be happy looking in the mirror. Once you have that the making changes thing is easy because it's not an emotional/body shame thing, it's just you wanting to be more healthy! I'm sure you've heard it a MILLION times, but drinking lots of water will help you with all those healthy eating goals. Also I find if I have fruits and veggies pre cut with a healthy dip option, I'm way more likely to eat them!

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  42. I love that quote and it's something I have to remind myself constantly. I battle with my weight. I really do. And I'm actively trying to do something about it. But I know that even losing a bit of weight over a month is better than gaining more. I just want it all to happen RIGHT NOW. Patience is not one of my strengths.

    I think small, achievable goals are great. They sort of act as building blocks. Conquer one, use it to build on the next.

    You got this!!!

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  43. We have the same goals! Love this post. I lost 20 pounds in the spring of 2014 just by working out regularly and meal planning/portion control. If you google "Ziploc 3 compartment containers" or "EasyLunchboxes 3-Compartment Bento Lunch Box Containers", these are what I use for my lunches during the week. Usually a protein/main course in the big one, and veggies/and or fruits in the smaller ones. I've heard (and believe) it takes 21 days to form a habit and that's what got me going when it came to forcing myself to the gym 5 days a week and also planning our meals!!

    Staci
    www.missbloodymary.com

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  44. Good luck!

    At Disney, if you do eat junk food at least you're doing a bunch of walking. That was my justification because I did stuff my face.

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  45. Oh yes, we've all been there! Baby steps is the way to go. Drastically changing anything will never work. (Now please wait while I attempt to follow my own advice!) Good Luck girl!

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  46. If I had an answer for you, I'd be doing it myself. I am trying to eat better and sleep better ... no snacks after 9 p.m. ... which is prime time for my Netflix binge-fests, more veggies, water with all meals and throughout the day, try to get to sleep at a decent time (hint: ease up on my aforementioned Netflix fests) and move more. Plus, I can't figure out how to refuel after running -- Oh, I ran a 10k so I get to eat whatever I want. And ... Oh, I ran to the mailbox and back so I get to eat whatever I want. Whatever - it doesn't work that way, apparently.

    Good luck!

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  47. I have similar goals! I need to stop drinking my calories too! Easier said than done for sure!

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  48. Ugh, I'm going through the exact same thing! This whole getting older and having your metabolism slow down is the worst! I'm pretty good as far as eating during the week, it's the fact that I've completely fallen off the horse as far as working out is concerned! My husband sits there and tells me that I look great no matter what, but I just don't think they get that sometimes it's about you being at peace with how you look and that dreaded number on the scale, not how everybody else feels about it.

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  49. Get it girl! I'm trying to diet and eat better as well. It's so easy to eat so bad whenever I eat out.

    liz @ sundays with sophie

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  50. I'm at that number right now too and need to start getting back on track. Traveling definitely throws me off because I don't diet while on vacation and we've done several small trips recently.

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  51. I'm at that number too... I just went to the doctor Monday and could not believe where I was. Time to stop going out for lunch & cutting out everything but water. Good luck and have a wonderful time on your vacation, you're there to relax, just be mindful that your not indulging during every meal, but make sure to enjoy yourself!

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  52. Small goals are the way to go sometimes. And it's not like the ones you've laid out are THAT small, I mean..if if they were, you'd have already kicked those habits no problem, right? Focus on one thing at a time. You absolutely got this!

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  53. Oh I needed to read this post today so badly, friend. I know pregnancy isn't an excuse to gain a lot of weight (and thankfully, I really haven't gained much), but there is definitely something a little weird about realizing I am at the heaviest I've ever been. Which is fine because, hello cooking a baby and all that, but I hope once baby is here, that I can set small goals for myself so I can get back to where I was. Eating right is definitely going to continue to be my first step and then the workouts will come! Great post, lovely!

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  54. Why does fucking Sprite have to be so delicious?! WHY?! Sprite Zero??? It's pretty good. I mean, obviously regular is always going to better but still... that can be your fall back plan maybe?? Because let's face it... sometimes a girl needs the bubbles!!!!!!!!! lol
    Eating out is huuuuuuuge. There are so many hidden calories. Plus it's really a waste of money. Eating stuff from home is good for our bodies AND our wallets! :D

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  55. I'm in the same boat as you, except tasty treats are my downfall. But I don't have a scale at home so I don't know where I'm at, which could be good or bad lol but as long as I can fit into my pants I'm doing okay. Your goals sound great, especially not drinking your calories one. If you replace sprite with water I think you will notice a big difference!

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  56. I'm finally arriving at the point where I like me for me despite weighing more than I ever have. Isn't it funny how you spend years and years thinking "God, I need to lose weight." Then you look at photos of yourself and see that you were significantly smaller than you are now. You're right: it's all in the mind. Weird. Sometimes it's nice getting older :D

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  57. Oh man, I could leave a comment the length of this blog post. But I will reign myself in, haha! Suffice it to say that I understand the feeling of being really happy with who I see in the mirror, but also not liking when my clothes don't fit (and I totally have that number too). So I hear you. Like you said, baby steps. Small things will add up to big change over time. You've got this, girl!

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  58. I could have written this post. I was doing so well this summer with healthier eating habits, working out 3-4 times every week, and watching my weight go down. I didn't lose a ton of weight or anything, but I lost enough to notice a difference in the way my clothes fit. On top of that, I just felt better.

    And then, somewhere along the way, I lost my motivation. I've been trying to get back on track for the last month and a half, and I'm still struggling. It sucks.

    I wish I had some great advice, but I'm mostly just writing this to let you know that I'm right there with you!

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  59. I'm feeling the exact same way right now. I don't like what I see, but I'm not actively changing it. I put my FitBit back on a week ago and I'm trying to meal plan. That seems to help me with healthier options because if I have to make a spur of the moment decision, it's always something bad. Here's to slow progress!

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  60. i definitely would wait until after disney! there's no way i would be on track there. it's a different world!

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  61. The scale is so not my friend lately. Eating out and portion control are the biggest challenges, for sure! It doesn't help that we're headed into the most extreme eating season of the year. Ahh! Maybe January with the New Years Resolutions :)

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  62. I've gone back and forth with love/hate of the scale, buuut the older I get (dang metabolism) I really think I need it to keep myself in check, but it's such a hard balance between not obsessing over it, and using it to make sure that I'm not gaining like 10 lbs in a week... this post just encouraged me to start using myfitnesspal again in order to not go over my sugar intake 5x by like 11am... how are you doing with this so far??

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  63. I am right there with you girl. Work stress has put me so off my game lately. I am trying to get back to meal preps and working out consistently. It is tough.

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  64. Gosh. I feel ya on this subject. The struggle is real. I wish I had some magical advice for us. Setting goals and holding yourself accountable is definitely tough! I've been writing down on my planner the days I do work out and what exercises I do. I feel like seeing it makes me feel better knowing I got 4 days in or when I only get 1-2 days I'm like agh damn you! And then I try harder. Lol. :)

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