Tuesday, January 20, 2015

My Sisters

I've always wanted a sister.

I vividly remember each and every birthday I would wish for a sister, please, birthday wish granting fairies. And every year I was disappointed. That's not fair, I'd grumble. My brothers have each other, and they have a sister (me), so don't I deserve a sister? When I figured out how one goes about getting a sister, I realised it would never happen. Mum was done in all the scientific ways to be done having kids.

I accepted it, but it's always been in the back of my head.

Now I should admit that I what I actually wanted was what I thought a sister should be. You see, I have a sister. Technically, I have 4 half sisters. The 2 eldest want nothing to do with us, the other 2 I have met perhaps 5 or 6 times in my life. When our mothers found out about each other (awkward) my mum attempted to keep us in my dad's life, and consequently I suddenly had 2 sisters, but then my mum skeddaddled and took us with her, and my sisters' mother left as well. We are friends on facebook, and I am glad they are both happy and healthy, and technically I am an auntie (twice) but I don't really know them. I know my cousins better than I know my 'sisters'.

This one time though, my mum dropped us off and my sister and I coincidentally had the exact same dress on. Same taste in men, same taste in kids clothes.... but aren't we cute? Another fun fact, my sister and I are the only natural blondes in the family. She's still blonde, I'm not. I'm on the right.


My husband has a brother. I am hoping he meets an awesome gal and we'll get along like a house on fire and maybe, maybe, maybe I'll get to be a bridesmaid and then I'll have a real sister who is also a friend. Let's not get ahead of ourselves here, my brother in law is not down with my plan. 

As I get older though, I've come to realise that I'm ok without a sister. My brothers are pretty awesome, and also kind of awful, but I love them. My mum is the best mum ever. And if all I want is to feel like I have a really close friend who is related to me.. well, I kind of have that, minus the relation. I have the only sisters I'll ever need.

You know my bestie. You know the story of how we met and how I followed her to KY. You know our husbands are best friends, and all 3 of them work together. She has taught me everything I know about hair and makeup. She taught me how to play beer pong, heck I hadn't even had a beer before I met her.



She taught me that getting ready together is the best part of going out. She taught me that 5 minutes means more like an hour, but it goes by just as fast with her. She taught me to say eff you to the people who didn't like me, or the cute guy at the bar that called me a bitch. St Paddy's became 'our' thing. Not to mention the races - in both Sydney & Kentucky.






She taught me how to take shots - like really, I couldn't take a shot before I met her. She introduced me to country music. She taught me that props always make photos better. She showed me how to have confidence regardless of my size, and that my perception of myself was all wrong.








She is the kindest, sweetest, friendliest person I have ever met. She made me a nicer person, and I like to think I brought out her bitchy, tougher side. I am not her first or her only best friend, but I am lucky and privileged to be in her life. Almost all of my good memories are with her, and the ones you see today aren't even a smidgen of the good times we've had together. I couldn't imagine anyone else standing up next to me on my wedding day - whether it was a big to do or courthouse shindig, for me it was necessary that she was right there next to me.




My other best friend - my other sister - is one of the best people I have ever met. She is hilarious, amazing, tough, inspiring, gorgeous.. the list goes on. We met in 2010 and I think both of us were hoping not to like the other but got along like a house on fire. Her and my other bestie have known each other since childhood.



We saw each other a couple times when I visited Louisville, but nowhere near as much to really build a friendship. We liked each other sure, but we wouldn't be as close as we are today if I hadn't moved in with her 2012. KC and I weren't together, and I was planning to live in KY for a year and she opened up her house, her life, her heart to me. To this girl she barely knew. And I am so amazed, and will be forever grateful. I will never return that favour, I will never do enough to make that up to her. The time that I lived with her, we got to know each other like only living together can do. We cooked and cleaned and got ready together. I sat on the bed with the dogs and her oldest son while she got ready. We sat on my bed and talked about deep stuff. We trained together, she made me realise the runner I could be. She is the best hair stylist in the country - yep - and has fixed my hair and eyebrows countless times.


I sat on the couch with her and her husband, we'd all be reading, watching TV and sharing popcorn. She'd pop her head in to my bedroom and say 'want to go get some ice cream?' and she knew I was always game. I was the third wheel to their marriage and they never made me feel that way. She drove me to work every day, she sat with me at the social security office to get my visa sorted, I went with her to pick up her son from school. She took me to the bank to set up an account, and she told the gym I was her cousin so they could put me on to their membership. She just took me under her wing and made me a part of her life. I was sad about KC and had other issues and she would just snap me out of it and tell me to stop being ridiculous. Anyone else and I would have been hurt - her? I knew it came from a place of love and also a place of please stop being so ridiculous Kristen.

She understands me better than anyone else, we think the same on so many levels, she makes me laugh harder than anyone because she always says what I'm thinking. We are probably the bitchiest people each of us know. She is a vegetarian and inspires me on so many levels but never pushes me - or anyone - to do anthing. She has a bazillion friends, soon to be 3 children, her own business, she runs races and does triathlons - she did a half ironman when she was pregnant with her second and then she hiked the grand canyon when she was pregnant with her third.  All of this, and she still makes time for little old me, and I consider her one of my top five people in the whole world. Which is saying something. She has been in more weddings than Katherine Heigl in 27 dresses but she still said yes to me.


I have other good friends that are important to me and I am happy to have them in my life, including my Australian bestie and another girl that was my bridesmaid. I just feel extra lucky and happy for these two. They have other best friends and people they have known longer, most of their lives even. They have people they might consider best-er friends than me. And that's ok. Because these two.. they are my best friends. My sisters. Who needs a biological sister when I have these girls? They have held my hair for numerous reasons that we shan't talk about, they have held me as I cried, laughed so hard we cried some more, they have inspired and motivated me, left me be when I needed to be alone. They get me, really get me, and they still like me. All the cliché things and more. That's what besties are for. They are my persons.






And now.... they both know about my blog! I know, right? Crazy. No-one in my life except KC knew about this blog and now the two most important people in my life know. Ok, and their husbands. So 5 people. That's where I'm stopping now, no-one else needs to know!

Anyway now that you have seen more of mine and my besties faces than you ever wanted to.. are you lucky enough to have a sister that is also a best friend? Or like me, did you have to choose your sisters? I hope you were as lucky as me in your findings. I am so thankful for these girls.

55 comments:

  1. This is so adorable/wonderful. You're so lucky to have such great friends!!

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  2. My sister is my best friend, and I almost said she lives far away but nothing like Australia. I was so lucky to have her growing up, but even though I've had really good friends I've never really had a best friend like you just described with the exception of my sis or my mom. I love all of the pictures you have of each of you and all three of you. It really makes me want to make sure I take pictures of everything, even when I feel like I'm not looking my best!

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  3. Aww, I'm jealous. I don't have a best friend! I do have a sister, though - who just found out about my blog today!

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  4. I loved reading this and seeing all these pictures... it's such a happy post! I do have a sister and she is my best friend... well, sometimes. haha we don't really talk about EVERYTHING but she is supportive and I know if I need her she'll be there. ;)

    Jessica
    the.pyreflies.org

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  5. This is adorable. I have always wanted a sister too and thankfully I have one now that my brother is married. Who says that sisters and family HAVE to be blood?

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  6. so sweet and precious!! this is why you didn't grow up with sisters--you were meant to have them later in life!! so glad you have that experience with them now. i love my sisters and my "sisters!"

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  7. Aw, this is so sweet! I love that you helped your bestie bring out her tougher, bitchy side. It must be an Aquarian trait because I've been known to help a few of my friends with that as well!

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  8. What a great post! I'm sure your friends feel just as lucky to have you in their lives too!

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  9. This is such a sweet post!! I firmly believe our friends are the family we choose for ourselves!! I am so incredibly lucky to have an older sister that is not only my best friend but at times like a second mom!! We are so close and just like you, she wished for a little baby sister and thankfully my parents obliged lol! xo, Biana - BlovedBoston

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  10. Friends are the family God 'forgot' to give us ;)! I'm so glad you have such amazing women in your life and that y'all are like sisters. I cant imagine my life without my two real sisters and my best friend sisters, either. Love all of your fun pictures, and yay for people knowing about the blog. Probably 10 of my friends know, but that's it!

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  11. What a sweet post!

    I'm the opposite. I have a sister and I need a best friend. But my sister lives in Australia and it's so hard because she's pregnant and it's killing me not to be there *sobs*

    You're so luck to have such awesome friends. Oh, and I had to laugh because I'm also hoping my brother in law finds a gal that I can be bffs with, lol!

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  12. aww this is so sweet! i have two brothers, one older, one younger. I always wanted a sister too but cousins and best friends are the best :) xo jillian - cornflake dreams

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  13. This is so sweet. And so true for many people. They don't have biological sisters, but chosen ones. :) I have two sisters. One is a few years younger than me. We are very very different in a lot of ways, but pretty similar in unexpected ones. We are close, but she is very private by nature and we don't live in the same city. I need to spend more 'sister' time with her. :) Our other sister was a 'surprise' when we were in high school. So now she is almost 8 years old. It's so funny I don't even remember what it was like before she was around. She's a smarty, and so much fun to hang with, she keeps my parents extra young too. :) I haven't been lucky enough to have super close girl friends since high school. Though I remember what it was like. One betrayed my trust during my pre wedding stuff. I have 'forgiven' but I haven't tried to put her back in my life. I don't think that I need to. (it took me a long time to get to this!) I have a lot of girl friends from college but many have moved away. Two still live here but we always hang out in a group. Sometimes I think that hinders conversation and experiences that make us close. It is one of my goals this year to work on making personal realtionships with people in my life better. So I definitely want to do that with them. :) Glad you have such good girl friends. :) XO -Alexandra

    Simply Alexandra: My Favorite Things

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  14. What a sweet post! I ways wanted a sister too (especially to see if she would look like me, ha) but now I have some pretty awesome sister in laws!

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  15. Ahh this was such a sweet post. The picture of you and your half-sister matching is so cute. It's so obvious that you have some amazing friends! I always wanted a sister growing up too, but I think not having one made me appreciate my brother even more and now that I'm older I would never wish for a sister because I'm so thankful for my brother if that makes any sense.

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  16. I waited 8 years before the birthday fairies granted my wish for a sister and even 8 years younger she's still my bestest friend. What I wish i had now was best girlfriends. My family moved every 2-3 years growing up and I've seemed to continue the trend post-high school so while I've got great girlfriends they live all over the country and none for gretchen weiners :( haha but seriously I love reading about your amazing besties!

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  17. Such a sweet post! I don't have a biological sister, but I definitely consider my bestie my sister! We've known each other since we were babies and grew up together!

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  18. This is such a sweet post and it shows that you don't need to be blood to be family.

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  19. This is so sweet! I know exactly how you feel. I have always wanted a sister too and am so thankful for my besties that feel like sisters! It was so great to read more about the ladies in your life. :)

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  20. Love this post!

    I actually have 3 sisters, but because of family issues I am not really close to any of them. I am closest with my eldest sister and her children are my world but we really do not talk much, unless it is about the kids.

    But my best friend and I have been friends since we were 10. She is more of a sister to me than my actual sisters. She just recently moved 4 hours away and I still want to cry about it. ;)

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  21. This is adorable! You truly found your sisters. I have a half-sister as well, but she is 20 years older so we don't have a tremendous amount it common, ha!

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  22. I love this. I always wanted a sister growing up to. I love my brother but I always wanted a sister too. Looking back I think I'm happier that I got to choose my "sisters" rather than having biological sisters.

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  23. Growing up my sister and I weren't close at all because of the age gap but now that we are older and we actually lived in the same city (for one year.....tear) we are so much closer. Having good girlfriends is so important especially as you get older you realize the ones that are going to stick by you through anything. So happy to hear you have such amazing women in your life!

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  24. Sometimes best friends are just the same as having sisters. I've got a sister and we're not very close ( there's about 12 hours driving distance between us), so I depend a lot on friends! So happy to hear you've got these amazing ladies!

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  25. I don't have blood sisters and never wanted any...never really needed any because I have two best friends that fit that space so perfectly.

    So glad your girls know about your blog!

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  26. Ahhh - such a blessing to have 'sisters' in your life. Blood & otherwise.
    I am always so jealous of people who had sisters so I always say I need girlfriends in my life to fill that void.

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  27. I love this! You have so many incredible friends! I really loved looking at these photos!
    Melanie @ meandmr.com

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  28. Oh girl. Great friends are seriously such a wonderful thing.

    I have 3 biological sisters. I do love them. We all see each other at Christmas and Thanksgiving and in between. I wouldn't ever wish not to have them... but at times, I wish we were more like friends. Sometimes, I miss that relationship. Because we are all so spread out, we don't have the typical "sister" relationship. My two oldest sisters are 13 and 15 years older than me. I became an aunt at age 9, so they were more like moms to me.
    I'm so glad you have your best friends.

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  29. So many great photos, and obviously they totally counts as sisters. I am not close with my sister but I have two best friends that I've known forever and they count as sisters!

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  30. Loved this! You have some very special ladies in your life. I never had a sister (although now I have a step sister) and when I went to college and joined a sorority, it was all of a sudden like having 100 sisters! Those are seriously my best memories, all living in the house together. I truly believe that friends can become family!

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  31. Aw, what a sweet post. Crazy about your half sisters though, wow. I had no idea. Color me not surprised though, given what I know about what I know. I've always believed that "friends are the family you choose," and I've had friends be closer to me and more supportive and love me better than family has... so I see no need to make a distinction between blood-related or not when describing family. Family is an umbrella, and it's a position earned, not one you happen into by virtue of birth alone. At least, to me :)

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  32. Girl, what a blessing to not just have one friend like this but two?!?! They sound wonderful and make me want to move to KY so I can be friends with all three of y'all. I don't have much of a relationship with my older sister but I've got a best friend that will always be my sister! We've been best friends since we were like 3 and she knows me better than I know myself!

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  33. Well if this isn't just the sweetest thing I've ever read! You are so lucky to have such incredible ladies in your life. I have one brother (who really isn't much of a sibling to me at all) and no sisters, but Ben has 2 sisters, and one in particular has treated me like a true, blood sister since the day I met her. I'm not really a girl's girl so I never missed having a sister that much growing up, but I do wonder what it would have been like!

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  34. Another really sweet post :) I'm an only child and before my mom eliminated any possibility of having more children, she asked me (and my dad) what we thought about adding to the family before we no longer had the chance. My answer was no b/c I didn't want to share my candy with anyone. I regret that answer lol. But luckily, I have a friend who understands me more than anyone ever has and who I don't want to live without. I think chosen family is just as amazing as (and sometimes more than) the family you can't help having. I'm glad you found your sisters (and that I found mine)! Lucky us, huh? :D

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  35. Awww well isn't this just the sweetest post?!? I have a sister who is 4 and 1/2 years younger than me. We got along ok when we were really young...but when she was in middle school and early high school we didn't get along at all. As adults, we are closer than ever and I am so glad we have the relationship that we do.

    I always believed that some family is given to you (blood relatives) and you find the rest (amazing friends) along the way!

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  36. Yay for besties being chosen sisters! I would say I'm the luckiest of all and have both. A biological bestie sister (who was my MOH) and chosen bestie sisters, who I absolutely love and would do anything for. If only they lived closer... It looks like you've been lucky enough to find some amazing friends too! There is nothing better than a best girlfriend, whether she's blood related or not :)

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  37. Yep- friends can definitely be like sisters!!!
    And, my best friend is my sister-in-law (she is married to my younger brother) - sadly we live 10 hours apart but it doesn't really matter!!!

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  38. So many fun times with your girlies! Love your bridesmaids' dressed and your bachelorette outfit!!!

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  39. This is such a wonderful post. And I so enjoyed reading this and all the wonderful photos you've included.

    K. or Pure & Complex
    www.purecomplex.com

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  40. Oh I love this!! I always wanted a sister too! I would get so jealous of my friends that had sisters and got to share eachothers clothes and have that connection! But really who needs a sister when you have best friends?!

    <3 Shannon
    Upbeat Soles

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  41. This is a beautiful post Kristen! You have some wonderful ladies aka sisters in your life! My best friends are definitely my twin sister, my younger sister and my mum. I'm so close to them and they are the best friends a girl could be lucky enough to have I reckon!

    Carly x

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  42. I love seeing all these great photos! I have a brother, but M is truly my "sister" - it's kind of nice to be able to choose your own :)

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  43. This is a beautiful post. Love all the pictures. You are a very lucky girl.

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  44. I love that we can choose our sisters and our family for that matter! I was lucky and have sisters with whom I'm really close. As kids we were besties and overtime we have grown into different people so I'd say we are somewhat less close now. But still friends. I still call them every two weeks and we still text all the time. I still assume that when I'm old I'll live in an old folks home with both of them. When we were kids we also had two step sisters and one of them was my favourite person ever. I loved her like a sister and to this day I call her my sister, so basically in a long winded fashion I'm agreeing with you completely. :) Oh and I know that feeling of not wanting your friends and family to know about your blog. I still get weirded out when my coworkers come up to me and talk about what I've posted! For some reason it's nice to keep it separate haha

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  45. awwwww!! (wipes tear) I have a sister and also some of the best girlfriends in the world so this post (every bit of it haha) was super cute! Love it! xoxo

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  46. Aww I love this post. So sweet!! I have two sisters, and also a few of those best friends that are like sisters to me. It's awesome having wonderful girls that understand you! Xo

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  47. what is that quote? "friends are the family we choose." I have two sisters, but I have to say I am far closer with my friends than I have ever been with my sisters. We're just too different and don't see the world the same. I love them and all, and we get along far better now that we live in different states versus the same bedroom, but when I have a problem, its my friends I call.

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  48. You and your sisters are gorgeous! I love posts like this! I have my own sister and then two chosen sisters as well. Lucky in life I would say :)

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  49. Okaaaaay this is just the sweetest post ever. Your BFF sounds amazing - you are so lucky to have her as a fister/sriend (haha really bad jokes...). I love all of the pictures of you guys!

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  50. Aw love, love it. No sisters for me, but I've really bonded with my one sister-in-law (and it's kinda fun to be the older of the two hah). Good relationships with good gals are everything for sanity and guaranteed good times ;)

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  51. Aww babe that is what sisters are supposed to be ... friends, who are there for you, who you can chat with bounce things off of and who pull you up when you are town. It isnt just a blood thing. Ahhhh now I miss my sissy but Im thankful for all the other sisters (blood and otherwise) that I do have :)

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  52. Awww, this post is so so sweet. You had me tearing up near the end (ok, I tear up easily, don't be concerned...) Best friends/sisters are so important and it's great to show them love & appreciation (even though they already know) <3 My sister and I were close as kids, then kind of grew apart during our teenage years (we are kind of opposites in a lot of ways and we didn't get a long for a little bit) but now as adults we're good friends and I feel like we're getting close and it's nice. :)

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  54. Awww! This is so cute! Your 'sisters' sound like amazing women! I'm glad you have them in your life even if they are "real" sisters! I was always like you, I wanted a little sister. And I grew up with some of my friends having great relationships with their sisters and I always thought how cool it would be to have a sister! And then, just when I became a teenager, my Dad and step Mom had a daughter. Except I never seen her. Only on the weekends. Then a couple years later, my Mom and step dad had a daughter. Growing up with Jasmine was more like having a kid because we lived together and I was old enough to basically help raise her. Okay, I'm rambling now... :)

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