Monday, October 6, 2014

25 - the year of America

We left 24 year old me heartbroken and about to move overseas.Though the heartbreak and that whole time was the worst time of my adult life, it was so unbelievably ridiculously needed. I learned so much about myself, relationships, love. I learned what I wanted, how to be alone without being lonely, finding out who I was and learning to love myself and how to stand up for myself. I don't look back on it with fond memories, but it made me a stronger person. And as Shelby said; at least it's behind me and KC is beside me.

Before I met my (now) husband, before I met my best friend.. I had always planned on moving to the US for a year. And then I met them and KY seemed like a pretty good place to do it.

But first, a small goodbye celebration.



I moved in January 2012 and almost immediately we set out to celebrate the year to come.



Then an impromtpu girls trip to Nashville that was all sorts of awesome and crazy.



Oh yeah, and I cut my hair hella short (can I say hella? I like it) and went back super blonde to get rid of the awfulness that was the in-between brown and blonde. Oh and I was crazy skinny (for me) living on less than 1000 calories a day and running a shit ton (scientific word).


yeah not the best picture, but whatcha gonna do
I was very lucky to have a friend to stay with and I set out to get a job and a place of my own, though she told me there was no rush! This was one of the girls I met in 2010 and she was letting me live with her. We weren't super close and I was so grateful. We became so much closer when I lived with her, and I love her so much and consider her one of my best friends. Her husband and son accepted me as part of the family and I will never stop trying to make it up to them.



March came around and we were - of course - going to celebrate St Paddy's. My best friend told me KC might be at the bar we were going to, and I was not looking forward to it. I hadn't seen him that much since I moved there and it was clear he had moved on so I needed to do the same. I pasted a smile on my face and did my best.



Spoiler: I went home with him. Oops. My best friend was totally encouraging us. I blame thank her.



Another St Paddy's celebration.



I ran my best half marathon, and was in my best running shape. It helped to live with a running buddy.



Who would live in KY for a year without going to the Derby? Not I, no sir.



KC and I were 'dating' and I was a bit wary of it all. I didn't want to get my heart broken again, and I wanted to take it slow. But soon enough we were closer than ever, although it felt like a completely different relationship. That'll happen when you actually live in the same country.



I quickly found the weight I had lost and started eating like a normal person again.

A trip to DC was a huge deal and I started feeling more comfortable in our relationship. I kinda loved this guy again. Not sure I ever stopped.




I tried to start learning to curl my own hair. You can see the fruits of my labor below. Clearly, I rocked, so don't worry Nadine - because eventually I learned, you will too! Also, around this time I moved in with KC and it turned out to be perfect timing, actually.. because my friend was adding another member to her family and he needed my room.



I celebrated my first 4th of July!



Went to Disney World for the first time and had an absolute blast.



Mainly because I got to dress up for Halloween, something absolutely missing from my childhood!



KC asked me to marry him - obviously, I said yes.



We moved into our first apartment, and discovered neither of us can paint. I apologise in advance for the horribleness you are about to see.



 That's ok, we got a cute kitty to get over our non creative genes.



My friend and hair stylist dyed my hair 'brown' meaning she tried to match my roots as best she could. I absolutely loved it - and still do.


yes, our TV is on a card table. 

I celebrated my first Christmas in winter, complete with ugly christmas sweater parties.



Non fun note - totally got alcohol poisoning this night and it is the night that wine and I broke up.



We celebrated NYE quiet and low key, apart from a few beers and fun party hats.



All in all 25 was a pretty great year. It was hard to be away from my home, my family, my everything. It was even harder to decide to stay. When I moved to the US I had no idea it would end the way it did, and I felt like I didn't get the closure I needed. My heart will always be divided between the two.

Have you ever lived far away from home?

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49 comments:

  1. loving your look-backs of your life and that 25 was such a good year!

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  2. Wow - what a big year of changes (and the inevitable romantic reunion, yay!). I wore that EXACT same Tinkerbell costume a couple of years ago for Halloween...gotta love those light-up wings!

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  3. I can't believe you managed to fit all of that in one year! You were the perfect Tinkerbell - Disney World should totally have hired you!

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  4. Hooray for a reunion! You make a great Tink!

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  5. This was a HUGE year! I honestly can't imagine being so far from home.. you are a strong lady! Sounds like KC is all worth it though :) And yes, love the dark hair!

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  6. Girl, I think you are sooooo brave! I've never lived THAT far away from home (4 hours is the furthest I've moved away) and I had my hubs by my side for that, so I've never done anything big like that by myself. I admire you so much! And looooved getting more background to your story! You and KC were obviously meant to be!!

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  7. 25 was a great year indeed!! I totally agree with everyone else - being so far from home in a relatively strange place must have been so hard - but so happy everything worked out!! I got engaged at 25 too - my best year as well lol!

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  8. Great pictures! Looks like a fabulous reunion. 25 is a great year!

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  9. How and why in the name of hell would you live off of 1000 calories and run every day?!?! Goodness sakes girl! But oh, that natural light brown color is GORG on you! Definitely keep it. I'm playing hair color wars right now too, and have settled on an auburn-ish tone... For now :)

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  10. This story is great and makes me think that I need to recap some years of my life. Maybe that will help me remember more about what actually happened. lol

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  11. For some reason I thought you've been in the US longer. I've got a good 10 years on you ;)

    You're so brave for moving all by yourself! So glad it worked out well for you.

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  12. WOW, so much happens in a year right?!?! I love you blonde and brunette you rock both so very well! And you are a rock star living so far away from family. College is the only time I've been away and I'm nervous for our first MOVE. Love your year posts!

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  13. Wow what a year! I've never moved overseas and I can't imagine how hard and scary that must have been. You are so brave!

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  14. awesome! what a year for you! uprooting your life to move to a new country is tough but you've been having a blast and it shows :)

    -kathy
    Vodka and Soda

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  15. I'm so happy things worked out for you guys, you both seem so happy!

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  16. You look so pretty in all your pics!! I've never lived far away like that, I can imagine how bittersweet it would be :(

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  17. Once again, I looove your hair in all of these photos! I definitely don't think your paintings are that bad, but the cat was a good addition to your house anyway :) I'm only a short plane ride away from home and it's really hard for me, so I don't know how you do it!

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  18. Um, I gave up going to college because I couldn't move from home. So you are my hero.
    Plus, I've lived in KY my whole life & never went to the Derby - you so are a Kentucky girl over this born & Raised KY girl :)

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  19. yes, great pictures! My parents moved to England for a while, and when I went to visit them I loved it there. I would move overseas in a heartbeat. Sometimes, living close enough that with some effort you could go and see people because it's not THAT bad is actually worse than living super far away and having it be next to impossible. I've moved several places in the US (CA, CO, IL, NY, VT, and I'm on my way to NC) - but moving doesn't bother me so much anymore. I had a year where I learned to be alone and not be lonely too, and that is the BEST lesson anyone can learn. You can only be a full person when you realize you don't need anyone else to be whole.

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  20. Wow, what a big year! I've lived a lot of different places (have moved 18 times in my life), but I have always been pretty close to my family (three hours was the furthest away). Now that we might be moving anywhere in the US this upcoming year, it is both sad and exciting at the same time!

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  21. LOVE this! What a great year for you! And you look great blonde and brunette, jealous! Oh and you got alcohol poisoning from wine?!? How on earth did you manage that?

    <3, Pamela
    sequinsandseabreezes.blogspot.com

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  22. Ahhh. What a crazy year!! I'm proud of you for embracing your heartbreak...and for taking risks! Go you! :)

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  23. 25 sounds like a crazy whirlwind of a year. Hella is totally acceptable...I definitely say it! Also, pretty sure we might be clothing soulmates...first the America top & then the America swimsuit. I have both haha.

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  24. I love that you are doing these flash back posts! So fun. Sounds like this was a great year! I love Disney world too.

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  25. Love your blonde hair in curls and the purple dress! Looks like you've had a lot of fun times!

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  26. Your love story is so lovely, like a true romance novel:)

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  27. Can I be you for a couple of days? You have so many fun friends and parties and just always look like you are having a good time. Plus, you know how to glam it up like nobody's business! The hair, outfits...errrthang. Love this little recap of your 25th year!

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  28. I love your flashback posts. :) You look so pretty in all of these pictures and it looks like you had a really great year. I've never moved away from home (I mean, I don't live with my parents anymore but I've always been in the same city)... it's probably not easy at first but was definitely worth it in your case. :)

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  29. Ah I love these posts! Dang 25 was a jam packed year for you! I've been wanting to take a DC trip really bad and those wine paintings are awesome hahahaha!

    <3 Shannon
    Upbeatsoles.blogspot.com

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  30. 25 was quite the year for year, wow tons of changes!! Nice pictures and memories shared!

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  31. What a busy - and happy - year! You've been to more US cities than I have (Nasville is on the to-do list, Disney not so much anymore ha). That is such a sweet picture of you two post-engagement. Smart guy ;)

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  32. Now that's a life defining year. I can see why you'd feel caught between the two, since you were to be here a year and then go back. I'm glad you stayed! Things work out how they should sometimes.

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  33. Looks like your 25th year was wonderful! I'm glad so many great things happened for you in one year. And grrrrl, your Kentucky Derby hat game was on point! Hahaha. I lived in Louisville for a couple of years and I definitely had to check out the Derby while I was there. I saw Star Jones (and her unfortunate arms) there, too D:
    ~Gianni~

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  34. Yay for the reunion with your love! :) The farthest away from home I've lived is Oklahoma (about an 18 hour drive), and that was definitely rough at first! But then I met awesome friends and eventually my hubby so it worked out nicely! I don't know how you did it, you're very brave to move so far away!

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  35. You know what....2012 was one of my best years too!!! You were off moving to our country, getting engaged to KC, I just love it! I got married in 2012, we bought our first house and we both got new jobs and new cars.

    I will work on curling my hair so I don't disappoint you! I sort of gave up but I am going to keep trying, dang it!

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  36. Looks like it was a very good year for you. Glad you decided to move to the US and it all worked out.

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  37. I loved seeing all of these old pictures of you! You are lucky your hair looks good both blonde and brown, though I think I like it brown the most! It seems like it was such a good year for you. Sometimes the hardest years are the ones that lead into the best years of our lives!

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  38. I've never lived away from home but you make it seem like such fun!
    I love that Derby hat, girl! Also, you look amazing with both brown and blonde hair. I find it's rare that someone looks beautiful with both.

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  39. It's so wonderful you had a friend so willing to help you out like that, aw. Also next year you come to NJ for St. Paddy's with me, yes? We shall have fun. Okay it's settled. We can even do one of the leprechaun 5k races or something here. See you then. Well actually see you before then but whatever you know what I mean.
    I love that you're breaking down your transition to Aussie in America for us like this! So much fun getting to know you like I would if we'd known each other forever! (I'm so creepy with that, ugh, sorry)

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  40. Sounds like 25 turned into a fabulous year!!! I can't even imagine 1000 calories a day - glad you got back to healthy eating.

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  41. Hooray for 25 this was clearly a great year! btw i LOVE your hair short and girl both the blonde and the brown suit you! I love these posts!!

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  42. Cheers to taking chances! That's called living :)

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  43. I love these posts so much! It looks like 25 was a bast!

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  44. Yay these are my fav posts right now! I love reading your interpretation of American things. And yay DC pix!! Come back!

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  45. Wow it sounds like a whirlwind of a year for you! But it also sounds like it just kept getting better and better!!!! I love your hair short and blonde like that! It looks great! And seriously, "when you were skinny"?! Since when have you ever stopped being skinny?!

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  46. Just wanted you to know that I've really enjoyed these post! What a crazy year!

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  47. I love these posts so much! What an amazing year 25 was for you!
    ~Elise @ highheelsglitteringeyes.blogspot.com

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