Wednesday, September 24, 2014

Why I don't expect you to love Pride & Prejudice

We all know I love Pride & Prejudice. But after this post where I talked about it a wee bit more, a few people mentioned they hadn't read it. Not just that, but that they felt guilty or expected me to dislike (aka judge) them for it.

I mentioned that I read a few lines aloud to my friends. After I read this one:

I would by no means suspend any pleasure of yours,'' he coldly replied. She said no more, and they went down the other dance and parted in silence; on each side dissatisfied, though not to an equal degree, for in Darcy's breast there was a tolerable powerful feeling towards her, which soon procured her pardon, and directed all his anger against another.

This quote - oy, the shivers it sends down my spine. But my friends just stared at me blankly. My best friend said "I'm not smart enough to read books like that." 

That comment stayed with me, much like all of the 'don't hate me but I haven't read it', or the 'I'm ashamed I've never read it' comments on my last post. I would never think anything of the sort about anyone, that they are not smart enough to read something, or that they 'should' read anything. Sure, I love it. I don't expect anyone else to. I just love to talk about it.

I certainly don't think I am any smarter than my very smart friend just because I read a certain book. I mentioned I had to read it more than a few times before I understood it all, and most people don't have the patience or insanity for that. I know this is why I cannot pick up other classics as readily, because I cannot look past the parts I don't understand and see the story.

The only reason I read Pride & Prejudice is because the movie was coming out with Keira Knightley, and I was kind of obsessed with her, and I wanted to see it, but I have this weird thing where I must read the book before I see the movie (hypocrite; out of Jane's other books I have only read Persuasion but I have seen all the screen adaptions...). 

But anyway. These are some reasons why you shouldn't read it if you don't want to:

1. Pride & Prejudice is not an easy read. I don't think I am smart and sometimes I just want an easy read. This book is an easy read for me, only because I have read it so many times! I have recently started reading Jane Austen's other books, and they are nowhere near as easy for me to get through. But really, the only 'not easy' parts are the big / old school words and you could skip most of them and still understand the book.

2. It is so frustrating sometimes. Gah! If they weren't so proud, or prejudiced. Jk. Seriously though, you just want Mrs Bennet to shut up for a second, and Lydia to stop being such a hussy, and Wickham and his lies. This book could be over in a couple pages if everyone understood each other a bit more - but that would be no fun.

3. You can get your P&P fix elsewhere. The movie, the BBC TV series, the youtube series, Bridget Jones... The reason that P&P is a over 200 years old and still resonates with modern readers is because no matter what changes, so much stays the same. Romance, misunderstandings, social class, family... The wording might be different but life is so much the same in some ways. That's why it can be modernised into Bridget Jones and The Lizzie Bennet Diaries. I love the book, yes, but I love the story in all its various forms.

4. Everyone has different tastes! I tried to read my husband's favourite books and couldn't get through the whole series. Bloggers recommend nonfiction, mysteries or scary books (and my definition of scary is like a child's), and I know I won't like them so I don't add them to my list. Reading is the most fabulous thing in the world. If you don't like reading, that's cool too. But if you do, you really ought to read what you want (duh) and not my favourite just because I won't shut up about it. 

5. You might not like it. Oh stop it, you'll make me cry. I couldn't bear it if someone disliked my favourite book. There would be tears, and we couldn't be friends anymore. I can't talk about it.

On one hand I want everyone to love P&P and on the other, I'm like no, keep away. This is mine. I know I'm not twisting any arms to read it, and I know most people would read what they want anyway, but I just wanted to say that it's OK not to like my favourite book. I know it's a classic, and it's amazing, and I never shut up about it, but really. It's OK.

I guess what I am trying to say is if you want to read it because you want to read it - go right ahead, and please love it and tell me all about it - but if you don't, that's beyond fine. Reading anything is fabulous, because really.... there is no enjoyment like reading!



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38 comments:

  1. What Bridget Jones was based from P&P??? I totally missed that, but the Keira movie I got and liked. Reading at all is what matters! ;)

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    1. Haha. Yup. It's supposed to be a modern day version of P&P. That's why they cast Colin Firth, who played Mr. Darcy in the BBC adaptation of P&P. And that movie with Hillary Duff and her sister ( I think it's called Material Girls) is based off of Austen's Sense and Sensibility. It's always interesting to see the modern day take on the classics. LOL

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  2. I'm among the not-fans of P&P but mine was kinda just based on Principle. I went to a religious college where everyone was obsessed with it so I refused to even read/watch/participate in the endless P&P parties that were like every other day lol. Maybe one day when I'm not so cranky and jaded I'll actually give it a shot. You def make it sound appealing.

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  3. Oh, my reading taste is all over the place! My taste in general (about everything) is very eclectic. Sometimes my friends love the same things I do, but other times we have completely different opinions about books. For example, my bestie and I love most of the current YA books, but she doesn't share my love of classics. I'm an English major, so classics are kind of my thing. Hah. I think diversity is pretty much what makes the world go round, so it's great for people to have their own tastes. Life would be boring if we all liked the same things.

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  4. I say that to my sister sometimes, when she reads quotes from books. I love passionate you are about your favorite book! And like you said, reading is the best!

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  5. I tried to read it once and it just didn't really appeal to me. I don't read a lot because I have the hardest time finding any book that interests me enough...I have no idea why that is, or even how to explain the types of books I like! Also I don't care for Keira Knightley (can we still be friends???) so there's a better chance of me giving the book another shot than seeing the movie haha.

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  6. i like the movie with keira knightly but yeah, i'm in the cant read the book camp. i've tried, as with other jane austen books and it just isnt worth the struggle for me

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  7. I'm like you where I usually can't watch a movie without reading the book first. I agree that Pride & Prejudice can be frustrating, but it is so worth the read! :)

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  8. Yes! To this entire post! So much swooning involved and I still NEED to read the book! I think you definitely have to be in the right mood to read certain types of literature-- although I have to admit I don't understand how anyone could NOT love the movie... jk :)

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  9. Love reading and I must read the book first before watching the movie...even though the book is usually better.

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  10. I think you know how I feel about P&P! :) But I was the same way, I didn't get it either at first! I actually watched the Colin Firth version first, and I had to watch it a few times before I could really follow the dialogue. But once I got the hang of it I could watch or read any Jane Austen or similar stories (Jane Eyre, etc.) and understand it. It was almost like learning another language! I do agree though, it's not for everyone. But I love it so! Darcy! Swoooon!

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  11. I didn't know that about Bridget Jones...Interesting..
    I've tried reading it but just couldn't because of all the big words...I was also in highschool then so maybe I should try now that I'm a bit older lol

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  12. I agree with everything you said about reading, I'm a real book worm, will read anything and everything just to see what I think about that book that everyone else likes/dislikes and usually it ends up being totally opposite:)

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  13. I've never even tried to read it - odd since I love to read so much. Maybe this winter I will give it a chance!!!

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  14. hahaha just love this post. I DO like P&P but I don't know that I would read it again- it is a difficult read!

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  15. I think some books/styles just don't speak to people. I'm not the hugest Austen fan. (I can see you shivering over this, hahaha)

    I don't care what people read, I just hope they do read.

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  16. I think the length and ease of reading the book is what scares me - but it is on my life list to read!! it will happen!

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  17. Perhaps we meet half way and I try the movie? :) I still love you anyways.

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  18. I love how passionate you are about this girl. I'm so happy to hear how this book speaks to you. I love the movie so much I really need to try and tackle the book!

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  19. This is so true, not everyone will have the same tastes in books, that's why there are SO many books haha. I like a wide variety but sometimes I just can't get into a book for some reason or other (sometimes to do with the book, sometimes to do with me maybe?) - like recently Joey's sister gave me two books to borrow and I can't get into EITHER of them..... I'm a bit scared to admit that to her but ultimately we're not all going to love every book. :) I do like P&P but I read it a long time ago, so I think it's time for a refresher. :)

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  20. I agree everyone's taste is completely different I have lik a 10 year olds reading capability so when I attempted P&P in high school I just could not follow haha! I liked the movie though kinda.... ;)

    <3 Shannon
    Upbeatsoles.blogspot.com

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  21. What a great post!! I find that Jane Austen's novels are really hard to start. She throws so many characters at you in the beginning and you have to get used to the language. I always have to push myself through the beginning before it grows on me.

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  22. First of all, you are one smart cookie so just stop with that you're not smart business. Also I had no idea that Bridget Jones was based on P&P. I've also never seen Bridget Jones though, so that might be why. And you're so right, it's all about different strokes for different folks. Not every book is for everybody! Reading and books and the attachments we develop with them are such personal things, and that's part of what makes it so great and so fun :)

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  23. It definitely is a more difficult read. Authors from that time period were just so wordy! I didn't like how much extra stuff there was at the end. I would have liked the ending to be short and sweet, like the Keira Knightly movie, where you see, "Aha! They've finally shared their feelings with each other" and then it ends. Instead the book goes into the whole awkward, "When did you know you liked me?" that I find somewhat painful to read. The rest of the story I enjoyed more, though.

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  24. I'm with you- I don't care what people read as long as they are reading!

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  25. I want to read it because it's a classic but so many of the classics are hard for me to follow! The language they use is too distracting for me. I still want to give them a shot... this one b/c of you and Scarlet Letter just b/c I think it sounds awesome - have you read that one???

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  26. I want to read, but I'm really more excited to look for different covers at thrift shops ;-)

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  27. I haven't read P&P, but I love me some Bridget Jones! I had no idea it was the modern-day version! You learn something new every day! I do want to read P&P someday, though. It is such a classic, and I feel like I am missing out!

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  28. Your love for this book is probably one of my favorite things about you! I have been inspired to read more since following you and Kay. I'm not even mad about it at all. I appreciate it. lol.

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  29. I've never seen nor read P&P. Please don't hate me! Will you still love me if I promise to make it one of the next books I read?

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  30. I've never tried to read it. I don't feel guilty or ashamed but sometimes I don't feel as well read. HOWEVER. I know that it's not the kind of book I'd enjoy because that's just not my taste. I might try to read it one day but for now, I'm okay with it.

    That said, I totally get why you're obsessed with it. And I appreciate your fanaticism. People need to be this enthusiastic about books.

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  31. Oh, you are so right about all of this, but it still breaks my heart to think of people not reading it. It's a classic that is BEAUTIFUL. And yeah, it's written in an old style of prose, but once you get a few chapters in, you get used to it. Gah, it's just soooo good. I actually haven't read it in a few years (I think I've read it twice?) so maybe I need to pick it up again. Apparently your post is having the opposite effect on me :)

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  32. I think having people in your life with completely different interests and tastes from your own is wonderful; you get to introduce each other to things neither of you ever thought about before. Just talking about something you love can make a person curious enough to check it out for themselves, which is great whether they end up liking it or not! No one should feel bad about what they like or don't like or what they have/haven't done. Variety is the spice of life :) ...But I do love P&P :D
    ~Gianni~

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  33. i don't think i've read it since high school! i need to get back on that!

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  34. This! All of this!!! Everyday I'm more and more convinced that you are my P&P twin :)
    Especially #5. I have stopped recommending my faves to people because if they read it and hate it, OMG I can't deal... How could you possibly! What's wrong with you?! Instant friendship ender. Just kidding. Maybe.

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  35. Love this post!! I adore this book but this is coming from a girl who is a book nerd. That said I also know a lot of the classics i ADORE aren't for everyone and thats fine too. :)

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  36. I'm breathing a sigh of relief and feel much better after reading this post :)

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