Tuesday, May 3, 2016

The Love That Split The World Review & reminder about next book

I had been wanting to read The Love That Split the World by Emily Henry ever since I saw it on Netgalley.. Unfortunately, Netgalley declined to give it to me, and I always feel like I should boycott books when Netgalley does that, like fine - you don't want to give it to me, I won't read it at all!

But then I got it in my Owl Crate for my birthday, so I decided it was fate and I had to read it. I forgive you Netgalley.

So what is it even about? From Goodreads:

I have never watched Friday Night Lights, but The Time Traveler's Wife is one of my all time favourites, so it definitely sounded like my kind of book.

So what did I think of it?

What I love is when I find a book that I constantly think about when I'm not reading it. Like what is going to happen? I wonder what this means? How will this be resolved? Like there are some books that you know what the end game is - lady heroine and prince charming get together, or the murderer is caught etc etc but some books, as I am reading them, I am thinking how are you gonna wrap this shit up, author person? This was one of those books. It wasn't life changing or mind blowing, but it was cute and I liked it, and I couldn't figure out where the hell it was going in some aspects.

I really, really, really disliked the ending. Sometimes a vague ending works. SOMETIMES IT DOES NOT. I kinda get why she did it, like she didn't want to be predictable, and either way people would have been pissed off, but as an author I'd rather piss off 50% of people vs pissing off all the people.

I didn't know it was set in Kentucky, which was kinda cool. I loved that it was set in KY but not in your face about it. Sometimes it takes me out of a book when authors include too many 'inside jokes' or things that only locals would get, and there was nothing in this book (besides school names) that were super specific to KY.

What was super funny to me was that in a book about time travel (kind of? I really didn't think it was super about time travel like, say The Time Traveler's wife), I managed to find a couple of quotes that spoke to me as an expat (or just, you know.. a person):

Funny thing about belonging to two worlds: Sometimes you feel like you belong in zero.

“I don’t know. It’s hard being surrounded by people—generally good people—who don’t get it, who think I’m uptight and weird whenever things bother me. I mean, sometimes it’s like people assume I’m like them in ways I’m not, and that sucks, but other times they think I’m different in ways I don’t feel different, and that sucks too.”

So overall, honestly? Out of enjoyment, it was like 4-5 stars until the ending, which made me cranky. But overall, good book.

Would I recommend it?

Do you like YA? Yes. If not, no.

Our next book is  Exposure to a Billionaire by Ann Menke. 

Check out last month's post to see how you can get a free copy of the book!

If you read The Love That Split The World, we'd love to hear your thoughts in the comments or link up below!

Monday, May 2, 2016

Link Up Reminders

Happy Monday all! Just a quick post today to remind everyone that the link up for book club is tomorrow so if you read The Love That Split the World by Emily Henry please join us in chatting about it!

Also, this Thursday is the next 'What's New With You' link up with Gretch and I, which you can read about here if you like. Basically, it's a monthly link up where you can chat about what's new with you, what you've been doing or loving this past month, goals you've been working towards, or you can link any old post - doesn't matter as long as you link back to us pretty please.

What's New With You

Comments turned off today, but I hope you can link up with us!

Sunday, May 1, 2016

Disciplined eating in May / April Shopping

Comments are turned off because this post is mainly for me, and it's a sunday, so go do your sunday thing.

In April, I didn't eat any ice cream, chocolate, candy, chips, doughnuts, etc. Basically everything that I binge eat, or items that would start me off on a binge. I don't binge eat doughnuts or ice cream, but they start an extremely unhealthy downward spiral that is hard for me to get out of.

I mentioned last month that moderation works for some whereas abstaining works for others. I think for most people though, we are a mix of both. I have no trouble with moderation when it comes to pizza, fries, etc but I cannot stop myself from eating an entire family size bag of chips. I definitely am better at moderation in public - I can eat a handful or walk away from chips, but at home or whenever I am alone, all bets are off.

Regardless though, I have not gone more than a week without chocolate, candy or chips my entire life, so to go an entire month was a huge pat on the back exercise in discipline for me. I am extremely proud. I didn't do this to lose weight or to become some super healthy person, I did it to prove to myself that I could and that I can be disciplined. Motivation had nothing to do with it, because sometimes motivation disappears. Okay I had one  piece of cake but I don't regret it.

But now I am scared to try and introduce those foods in moderation. Like I did with my working out everyday, I was scared to take a day off until I was sure it was a real habit, which it absolutely is now. But food? Food is harder, and scarier. I don't want to have any kind of disordered eating, I don't want to be afraid of junk food.

I would love to get to a point where I can eat things in moderation, but I know I am not anywhere close to that. I know that if I was home alone with a bag of chips and a bag of jelly beans, they would both be gone in an hour. But I could eat the piece of cake and move on, not let it wreck my day, so that's progress.

So the point of all this is that I am going to continue with the no sweets, but in May, I want to step it up and eat better overall. Not working on portion sizes yet, but none of the bad food I allowed myself in April as an alternative to sweets. I need to step away from things like pizza, fries, fried food, fast food, chinese food, etc. These are all things I eat when I eat out, I don't cook pizza at home, I don't make fries or fried chicken.

I would love to say no eating out, but I don't know if that is quite feasible. I don't want to feel so restricted that I completely fail. So for right now, I will say:

- no chick fil a, jimmy johns, mcdonalds or pf changs.
- no eating out alone. This is the #1 for me, eating out for lunch (pf changs is literally next door to my building) or grabbing something on the way home when KC is out, that's when I make my horrible decisions.
- nothing obviously over the top ridiculously unhealthy. I'm not going to be eating grilled chicken and broccoli for every meal, but eating things that are so obviously unhealthy at home or at a restaurant has to stop.

So. This might seem drastic. But it needs to be done. This time it is both for discipline and for hopefully losing a bit of weight. My cruise is next month you guys, and I am going to eat all the food and drink all the fruity cocktails. It might seem dangerous to try and be super healthy and then eat like a crazy person on my cruise, but whatever. Treat yoself.

I also wanted to share my shopping for April, because it doesn't need a post on its own.

I bought 4 tshirts and ended up taking them back, high five. I also bought a few things that are for future me, they are useless right now, but were on sale so whatever (total for those purchases: $43.92).

I got 2 dresses (well, a romper and a dress) for 2 upcoming events from rent the runway, I had a $50 birthday credit so I only spent $31.80.

I also bought these sandals.. I have no sandals, so I did 'need' them. I only have flip flops or heels, no in between. I needed some for the cruise but also just life, you know? It was life or death basically. $18.12.

sandals - affiliate link means you click, I make like 2 cents and you support my shopping habit so thanks a bunch

Then I bought... a lot of books.

Thriftbooks: $18.99 for 6 books.

Amazon: $19.55 for 2 books / $4.21 for 6 kindle books.

Book depository: $8.93

Paperbackswap: $6.30 - I had to add funds to my balance because there is a fee for every swap, which is like 50 cents. Once I exhaust these swaps and my balance, I will most likely stop using paperback swap. I got 5 books, and I have 9 credits left but their selection sucks.

Total: $151.82

All of these purchases are all selfish purchases, and impulse purchases for the most part. They don't include gifts (you do not want to know how much shipping cost for my mother's day gift, sigh) so they aren't the best indication of expenditure, and while it doesn't look that bad, there is definitely (always) room for improvement.

I also got a Golden Tote which probably satisfied the shopping urge for the month of April, and it was free, so that's good. I am going to try very hard not to shop in May, except for 2 things I have planned (Stitch Fix & Golden Tote).

Here's to May!

Friday, April 29, 2016

5 Favourites

It's been quite a week, let me tell you. Sometimes I wish I could just have a day or two to myself where I didn't have to do anything. Oh wait that's called a weekend... I have some plans this weekend but for the most part I'm gonna get real friendly with my couch.

But until then...

Time for a Lily!

With Oaks & Derby a week away and the official 'you have the day off' from my boss, I'm getting excited about all the lily drinks I'm gonna drink.

According to the Derby website, an Oaks Lily contains vodka + cosmopolitan mix. It's delicious y'all. And pink!

Rent The Runway

I decided against wearing my lace dress from golden tote. It's pretty and all, but a wee bit too tight to walk around all day in, and I'd be pulling it down all day - that's no fun. What can I say, my hips don't lie. It would be fine for dinner or whatever, and I do love it, just not for all day. I ended up using my birthday freebie from Rent the Runway for a hot pink dress that I don't want to share yet in case it doesn't work out, but in the mean time, I wish I had parties, weddings, showers, whatever-ers to wear all of these dresses:

one / two / three / four

Favourite Jam

Confident - Demi Lovato. I rarely listen to the radio but this song came on the other day and I just love the beat.

Current beauty love

Last month I told you I went a bit nutty with the beauty purchases, and one of those purchases was the LA Girl BB Cream - Tati (and a bunch of other youtubers) talked about it. Way back in the day I used to use this tinted moisturiser by maybelline that they of course discontinued, I bought a bunch of it when I found that out and that was like 8 years ago and I shit you not I still have some. But I've been looking for a replacement, and I think I have found it.

What I loved about the maybelline stuff was that it covered most of my imperfections but not who I was - you could still see my flaws, they were just a little blurred, which is how I like my everyday makeup to look. It was light and went on great. I have tried so many and they are all either too heavy, not enough or too much coverage, too expensive, too whatever. I just haven't found that perfect replacement. Until now! It's a little shy from meeting the mark on coverage, I do have to wear concealer under my eyes (or that could just be because I'm not 21 anymore, right?) but other than that, I love it. You can still see 'flaws' but I at least look awake and a little smoothed out.

Oh and did I mention it is $5? It's like $7 on their website, but at walgreens and drugstore.com it is only $5. The only problem is that at walgreens and drugstore, they don't have all the shades. I bought both fair and light/medium because I wasn't sure, and I have been wearing the fair the entire time, haven't even touched the other one. Maybe it will be good for the summer.

Anyway, pictures? If you follow me on snapchat you've already seen these, sorry for the double up.

Hashtag no filter. Anyway, I am not kidding, I love this stuff.

Cake! Discipline.

Okay so it's not really a favourite, but it's not a non favourite either. I 'failed' my no sweets thing! But I'm not mad or sad. Yesterday, we had this big lunch at work, and there was cake. I felt like a piece. I had a piece. It was good. I did not want another. I successfully said no to the bag of chips that were next to the cake, but I felt like I could eat a piece of cake like an adult and move on. It broke my no sweets month, but 27 days is still impressive. I am more impressed by my ability to have one piece of cake and NOT turn around and eat everything in sight. Am I ready to do that whole 'moderation' thing? Absolutely not, unfortunately. I still do not have the willpower or discipline to have a bag of chips at home and not eat the entire thing. But this shows that I will get there, so high fives.

and with that, I say good friday y'all and have a good weekend.