Tuesday, January 14, 2020

Books Lately

Happy Show Us Your Books day with Steph & Jana! Happy first SUYB of 2020! I thought I read a lot over the holidays but apparently not as I don't have a ton to share today. I did get to a few re-reads at the end of the year, so maybe that's why. But all my books today are good ones, which is awesome.


That's Hazel. She was my reading buddy for a couple weeks.

The Heart's Invisible Furies - John Boyne
follows the life of gay irishman cyril (not a real) avery
This was long and slow, but goodness it was worth it. It was well written, it was beautiful, it was heartbreaking. I laughed and I cried. Not one I'd reread, but one I'd recommend. It's not an instant connection kind of book, but one that grows on you slowly... which isn't for everyone. I took my time and picked it up when I felt like it, which I think helped me enjoy it. I feel like I really know these characters.
Speak - Laurie Halse Anderson
young adult
This one is a bit hard to talk about without 'spoiling'. I think it's one you should read without knowing exactly what its about, if you can help it. It was book club's December pick, I really liked it. I don't know that I have much to say about it besides that. It's a very short and quick read, it's sad and heartbreaking, even sadder when you think it could have been written today but it was written in 1999. I wish I'd read this in high school.
Unfu*ck Yourself - Gary John Bishop
self help
I think books like these are so unbelievably subjective so take my review with a grain of salt. I loved it. I don't know if it was just the right book at the right time, the right amount of blunt no nonsense common sense, or because I listened to it and I was super here for his scottish accent. Either way, I really really liked it.
Red at the Bone - Jacqueline Woodson
family, race, sexuality, class, everything.
I don't even know how to explain this book. It's about so much, but so short. It's so emotional, so beautifully written. It's narrated from multiple perspectives, not told in a linear fashion but it flows beautifully. I wish I was better with the words. I recommend.

Headliners - Lucy Parker
This was absolutely everything. I adored it. I love Lucy Parker, the end.
Received from Netgalley.



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TL;DR - I recommend.... well, all of them. 

Read anything decent lately?

Monday, January 6, 2020

January 2020 Goals

Hello all! Hope 2020 has been treating everyone well so far. I posted my yearly goals last week but I'm also doing monthly goals. The idea is that I'll do little things each month to work towards the yearly goals. I waited until today to post the monthly goals because I'm kind of counting the first week of 2020 as an epilogue of 2019 - because how can you work on goals when you're on holiday? It's against the rules.

January goals:

1. 10 no spend days. Not consecutive, just 10 days in between now and the end of the month. Absolutely no spending, no exceptions.

2. Journal, gratitude journal + meditate 12 days each. That works out to 3 days a week between now and the end of the month.

3. Get rid of 31 things. Plus, one in and one out for everything I bought at home, but they may not be exact swaps - for example, one teapot in, I don't have a teapot to go out, you know?

4. Read 4 books I already own. 2 ebooks + physical books.

5. Try a new fitness class. Plus, exercise 3 times a week.

6. Make one appointment.

7. Up water + reduce diet coke consumption. Drink 1 bottle of water at home every Saturday and Sunday, plus no soda at work.

8. Connect with my family. Call mum once a week and respond to her messages faster, call brothers once each, talk to other family members on social media.

9. In bed by 11pm each night. Eventually, I want my bed time to be earlier, but that's where I'm starting off until I figure out what time works best.

10. Stick to basic skincare routine. By basic, I mean cleanser, moisturiser + sunscreen. My problem is I have so many products and I love using them but I'm not super consistent because, well, I just have too much. So, start with basic for this month.

Phew, 10 goals, but they are all connected to my yearly goals so I feel good about them. I love a good holiday and of course I love going home, but I am ready to get back to a normal routine, that's for sure.

And for the random photo in today's post, this is my nephew. This is how he sleeps. I can't. I just can't handle it.


Any goals for January?

Thursday, January 2, 2020

December 2019 Recap - What's New With You Link Up

Hello all, time for another what's new with you link up! Thanks again if you join me, I always appreciate it. You don't have to display the button if you don't want to, but don't forget to mention it somewhere in your post and check out some of the other posts! I'll be doing a monthly recap like I do every month.

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December was fairly busy but I don't actually have a ton to show for it. I had like 3 work christmas parties, attended a new book club, had dinner with friends, had nights in with friends where we watched some of the Dolly netflix series, book club including ranking this year's books and the book exchange. Also went to see The Santaland Diaries and went to a speakeasy afterwards, so that was fun.


On top of that, books and cats as usual (plus a couple other cats and a dog).


I'm kind of skipping the end of December because I thought I'd do a whole separate recap, even though I really didn't do anything super exciting. Christmas and New Year's Eve were both lovely though.


I think I worked out a couple times, but no photos to show for it. I feel like I wasn't really that busy in December, but I was just so dang tired all the time. I'm looking forward to hopefully relaxing and recharging in January. Not yet, but maybe in a week or so. 

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Tuesday, December 31, 2019

Goodbye 2019, Hello 2020

So. 2019 was fun, wasn't it? Kidding, obviously. Started with the loss of my baby, ended with the loss of my marriage. And that's 2019 recapped. I made goals for 2019, I even did a 33 before 33 list somewhere in there. I am ignoring both of those lists and not checking to see if I actually ticked anything off the list. Obviously, when 2019 started, I did not expect it to end the way it has. But, it has. It is what it is, onwards and upwards, moving on to 2020.

Can I just say... I hate saying 'twenty' and always say 'two thousand' as in, 'two thousand and nineteen'. I don't want to say 'twenty twenty' but does it sound stupid saying 'two thousand and twenty'? I don't care, that's what I'm gonna say.

That's actually not the point of the post. Goals! I love 'em. I kinda really suck at them, but I love them. I think I'm still going to do monthly goals but I wanted to write down everything I want for 2020. I'm really good at thinking of goals, but not about what I need to do daily or weekly to achieve them, you know? So I'm really going to try and think of what I need to do daily, weekly, monthly, to achieve all of these.


I have a lot of things I want to do in 2020. Here are my goals:

1. get rid of 1 thing each day. I did the get rid of 1 thing on day 1, 2 things on day 2, 3 things on day 3 etc etc one month last year (or was it in 2018?), and that was almost 500 things and it was really hard. I figure 1 thing per day is a lot more manageable for me.

2. record happy/thankful/positive things. I did this in November on instagram. I'm not sure if I'll continue to do it on instagram, or if I'll use one of my handy dandy gratitude journals (kmart australia/amazon), or a mix of both. I don't know if I'll do it every day, I'll certainly try.

3. stick to my budget. I have some lofty financial goals for 2020 and I know I can do it as long as I stick to my dang budget. This includes some no spend days/weeks/challenges.

4. make the appointments and go. I'm great about going to the dermatologist after a bit of a scare a few months ago, but I am well overdue for a pap, I haven't been to the eye doctor since 2011, my spine hates me and really wants to visit the chiro, I go to my orthodontist because I have to but ignore the dentist... Make the appointments and go

5. read books I already own - or get rid of them. According to my goodreads, I have just over 600 books I need to read - physical, ebooks and audio. This isn't too bad - I mean, it's insane, but I read a lot so it would be fine except that according to my reading log spreadsheet, reading books I own (whether already, or purchased right before reading) only makes up 20% of my reading. The majority of books I read are ARCs or library books. So. In 2020, I would like to make an effort to read books I already own, or get rid of them.


6. have more consistent wake up and bed times. I'm really bad about this. Sometimes I'll wake up at 7:45, other times 4:30. Sometimes I go to sleep at 9pm, other times 1am. I also really need to stop hitting snooze.

7. learn new skills. I don't know what skills, I don't know how many. I don't want to attempt too much, but I have some small ideas.

8. do scary things. I don't know how I will do scary things when I am scared of them, but it's a goal

9. volunteer. Honestly, this is one of the scary things, because it means going somewhere new potentially on my own and I don't want to. But I want to volunteer, so I'm making it a separate goal so I can't ignore it.

10. streamline my skincare. I love skincare. I love skincare products. I need to slow my roll and a) stop buying new products and b) stick to a routine. That entire top shelf is skincare, plus the spinner thing on the counter plus even more in the cabinets.

11. meditate + journal. I know both of these things will help me, I've done both of them here and there but give up easily or don't make an effort. 

12. drink more water at home. I do not need a goal to drink more water in general, I get plenty, I drink it all day at work and when I work out. Because I hit my water goals, I end up never drinking it at home and only drinking tea or soda. This is okay of an evening because I've had water all day at work.. but on the weekend, unless I work out, that is zero water besides the tea. I got a fun new water bottle for home, just need to actually use it.

13. reduce waste. Plastic bags, paper towels, Lysol wipes... I want to stop using them all. The only thing is, how do I clean the kitty litter? I’m sure I’ll figure it out.

14. one in, one out. I've thought about doing this for a couple of years but I kept putting it off because, well, lazy. But this is why my closet gets overrun, why I have so many books I have to check goodreads to see if I already own it before accidentally buying it again, why I have more skincare than I can possibly use on my one face... so, if something comes in, something needs to go out.

15. exercise 3 times per week. I feel fairly confident in my exercise baseline, but sometimes I am lazy. I'd like to exercise more than 3 times, but I feel good about 3 being the minimum.


16. connect with my family more. I will forever regret not talking to my nana more before she died. I want to call my mum and brothers and talk to my other family over social media.

17. reduce diet soda consumption. I honestly don't know if I want to give it up completely. But I know I want to drink drastically less.

18. eat breakfast. I go back and forth on this, if I'm not hungry why should I eat? But maybe I eat more at lunch or dinner because I skip breakfast, or maybe that's why I hit the vending machines a little too often.

19. blog a bit more. I still love blogging, I just feel like I have nothing to say lately (obviously not when it comes to goals). My life is pretty boring. But, I figure, to start, one post per month that isn't a link up or goals post.

20. Top secret goal. Ha! This is silly. I don't know why, but I'm not ready to share this goal. I'm not 100% sure if I even want to do it, but I am leaning towards it. Not trying to be vague. But if I decide to do it, it's something I want to do before the end of this year, which means I need to get started on it very soon. I will share if/when I do because I know everyone is dying to know. Wink.


It has nothing to do with food, I just wanted to share this delicious falafel bowl I had. Beetroot hummus you guys. Delish. Need to figure out how to make beetroot hummus.

Phew. 20 goals for 2020. I know it's a lot. Some are big, some are small. Some are 1 thing, some are going to be all year goals. The idea is to look back on this list when I make my monthly goal list, because breaking it down into 'what do I need to do right now/what do I need to do tomorrow or by the end of the month to achieve this goal' will (hopefully) make it easier.

Any goals for 2020? Hope everyone has a lovely NYE - it's already 2020 here!